If an ex husband claims that he never wants to see you again, wouldn't that mean that if you had stuff between

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you both, that he would want it seperated as fast as possible? What does it mean when an ex strings things out for a couple years, instead of taking care of it all at once? Do you think it means that he is hoping his feelings will change? Is there any hope for the relationship? What do you think? No insults please.. I want honest, but kind answers.. thanks

Answer 1

Yeah, I agree with you. It seems pretty odd, if he was serious about never wanting to see you again, then you would think he would want things out of the way as soon as possible. Saying he never wants to see you again is a pretty cruel thing to say, and he probably said it because he was hurt or angry. If he fell out of love with you, then he wouldnt have said he never wants to see you again, because if he had no feelings for you it wouldnt matter whether he saw you again or not.

I think he still has feelings for you.....I dont think he is ready to give up on you yet if him dragging things out is any indication.

I dont know the reasons why he said he never wanted to see you again, but you would know why he said it. Work out why he said it....was it through anger....did you hurt him in some way? Never wanting to see someone again are usually words spoken from someone who is hurting....not by someone who has just fallen out of love with you.

Your best bet is to ask him. Tell him you are finding it hard to understand why he is dragging things out when he said he didnt want to see you again. It doesnt make sense. The only person who will make sense out of it is him. He knows how he is feeling, maybe you need to just have an open honest talk with him. Maybe there are some unresolved issues he needs to deal with before he can really move on. Ask him, he was your husband once, so its not like he is a stranger.

Sounds to me like you are hoping you and your husband can get back together again. Maybe that is not an option, but he is certainly giving you no indication that he doesnt want to see you again. I would be confused and wondering the same thing you are.

Talk to him, thats the only way you are going to alleviate your confusion.

Good luck

Answer 2

He seems to feel guilty. I would seperate your things and tell him he can get what he wants and you will be gone while he gets his things. He wanted one of two things...A) he wanted to make it work and so he hoped things would change for him or B) he wanted to make sure things worked out with his new love interest. I am so sorry for your pain however just let him get his things without you there so you don't have the hopes of any conversation which is what he is trying to avoid and then move on and know you are much stronger now.

Answer 3

You said the magic word EX-HUSBAND which means over and over means just that. Get it? Why would you or him want to see each other? Communication with an ex-husband should be minimum, to the point and only focus on the kids. It should also be cordial but keep it to the minimum so you do not give any false hopes to your children.
Scenario: No kids
I would not give him the time of they day!

Answer 4

I told my ex wife these exact words after we divorced.I also told her that she had 30 days to collect all her stuff from the house or it would become mine to do what ever I chose to do with it.She decided to come and get it after about 45 or 50 days.I did let her get it without any conflict just to save me from having to haul it off to the dump.His feelings probably won't change. He may still have feelings for you but because of the divorce it makes those feelings hard to sort out.Who knows what he is really thinking right now.Divorce has a way of clouding the mind and impairing our judgment sometimes.

Answer 5

I think he is just keeping you hanging on or he is involved with some one else and possibly using the excuse that you will not give him a Divorce just so he does not have to tie the knot with another person. I had this happen to a friend of mine and she found out the truth and dumped his A**. Move on with your Life, you have wasted enough of it on False Hope.

Answer 6

No, I don't think leaving his things behind was done to provide a "safety net" for him to fall into if needed. I think he probably didn't have his sh*t together in setting up his new home, and/or is lazy and irresponsible. Most men dodn't place as much sentimental value as women do on personal "stuff"-they have their favorites (electronics, tools), but aren't likely to hurry back for lots of "stuff". Try to move forward-you deserve more than carrying a flame for him.

Answer 7

You would certainly think that he'd want to settle things quickly. No he's not hoping his feelings will change. Be done with it and get on with your life. We've all made mistakes. Take care.

Answer 8

NO HE ISN'T HOPING HIS FEELINGS CHANGE. A LOT OF PEOPLE LEAVE AND PUT OFF THE DIVORCE FOR VARIOUS REASONS, MONEY FOR LAWYER, JUST DON'T HAVE TIME AND NO REAL NEED FOR DIVORCE RIGHT NOW, DON'T WANT TO BE BOTHERED,BECAUSE THERE OUT DOING WHAT THEY WANT.
LISTEN TAKE YOUR LIFE OFF HOLD FILE FOR DIVORCE AND BE DONE WITH IT. YOU CAN BE ASSURED IF HE GETS IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE THEY WILL PUSH HIM INTO FILING. GO AHEAD AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE AND BE HAPPY, QUIT TRYING TO LIVE ON 'WHAT IFS'

Answer 9

Well, in my job I handle a lot of Domestic Cases. It's either one of two things. He's not taking care of it because he knows it irritates you or he's just too damn lazy to come get it.

Give him a time frame in writing to come pick it up or tell him you'll bag it and set it at the curb. If he doesn't pick it up the sanitation department can have it.

Answer 10

I don't know the reasons for your devorse but i do know that it might be that he is very intelligent and maybe wants time to get everything done the correct way. maybe he want to find out reasons to take you to court and not give a thing to you."i don't want to see you any more"sounds like you cheated on him.in my opinion don't get false hopes, find happiness .good luck to you.