k so here's the thing, all my life i thought i was straight, thought i'd grow up to marry sum tall dark handsome guy, then i fall in luv w/a straight girl, who ends up being preg, took me a bit to get over her but i did. well then i screwed up again and fell for another straight girl. this time i thought maybe being just friends would help me get over her BUT IT DIDNT!!! I still really love her more than anything and i hate the thought of screwing up our friendship cuz she means the world to me. I already decided i'm going to tell her this summer so she'll finally know the truth and i can move on and have a normal friendship w/her, and move on, and i know she wont abandon me cuz i already told her i'm in luv w/a girl (just not that she's the girl). so basically, i'm not asking anyone what i should do, but my god has anyone ever had this happen before? TWICE IN A ROW??!?! and u know, just for the record, long distance really doesnt help...god i miss her =(
2007-03-25 13:23:07 · 11 answers · asked by choux pastry heart 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I know how you feel, I fall for the straight ones all the time. But I believe in honesty. Currently, I'm madly in love with a straight girl, who I think is wonderful, and she knows exactly how I feel about her. I flirt with her, but respect that she is straight and I know my boundaries with her. We have a great friendship, and I think that just being open with her has made that possible. Whereas, if I acted like I wasn't in love with her my feelings would just build up until I did something really stupid. So I would say tell her, but don't make your expectations very high. And understand where her bounds are, and respect them. If sending her flowers or love notes freaks her out then don't do it. That's the best advice I've got, good luck to you!
2007-03-25 13:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by blue_devil 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, here's the thing. I'm straight. When I was in college another girl developed a CRUSH on me. I told her I was straight but she seemed to think that because I didn't have a boyfriend and didn't date much (I didn't date much because you don't get asked out for a second date a whole lot if you don't sleep around...which I didn't) but, I digress...she thought that I was "gay and was just afraid to admit it to myself" I REALLY tried to remain friends with this girl because I liked her...she was a good person with a good heart but she just wouldn't leave me alone. She sent me flowers, she would show up at places where I was (and she had no business being) It was just a nightmare...totally wrecked our friendship. If you think you can tell this woman and remain just friends...more power to you, but if it were me...I would look at it like having the hots for a movie star...it's an unattainable goal. Just keep it to yourself. How much beating up do you think your heart can take?
2007-03-25 13:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by katjam234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch burn! Well it's life, and these things happen. I have had them happen to more than one friend. It hurts that these things happen.
But, it's like falling down. You hurt yourself. You get back back up. If she doesn't like you the way you like her, then just scrape off the dirt from your knees and carry on with your life. Hopefully like you said she will still be your friend. She sounds like a good friend to accept you for who you are. :) Have a good day.
2007-03-25 13:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy that she's ur friend.Anything else will change it if she does'nt feel the same about you.Good friends are harder to find than a lover & as much as you might want to have both,it usually does'nt work out & U end up losing a friend,too.:)
2007-03-25 13:28:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 11:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that sucks but the heart will do what the heart does she may get weirded out if you just drop it on her like that i am straight and i have a lesbian Friend if she told me she loved me i would remind her i am straight and proceed to avoid her like the plague no offence i got nothing against lesbians just so long as they respect my straightness...has your Friend ever displayed any bi-curious tendencies if not i wouldn't risk it sorry good luck to you
2007-03-25 13:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to give yourself a fighting chance. Try hanging out where there are lesbian girls, then find someone to fall in love with. You need some love, find someone to give it.
2007-03-25 13:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by brinntache 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
first of all im really sorry you have to go through this. And second...it WILL be okay! give it time. Hang in there. good luck
2007-03-25 13:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Seek professional help. Confide with your minister. You won't get the help you need by seeing a psychologist. They just will give you pills.
2007-03-25 13:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
umm r u still married cuz thats a lil confuzing
2007-03-25 13:27:39 · answer #10 · answered by moondoggy 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋