My mother says, "don't you feel bad about yourself? Don't you wish that you never quit?" (I used to play piano, play for my own enjoyment now) or are you still taking classes, or did you drop out again? (I left a graduate program after a semester and I am planning to go to another school) or are you afraid of marriage? (I am 33 and still haven't found someone). I'm feeling pretty bad.
2007-03-25 13:20:43 · 13 answers · asked by sugar1973 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all, cheer up and find things you can enjoy either with or without someone. Everything you did was because of choices you made it is your life and people who are negative even if it your mother, you sometimes have to weed out. I am not saying not 2 talk 2 your mother but when she starts making you feel bad say well I have to go maybe she will get the hint and stop complaining to you about your life. Plus you need to surround yourself with positive people and probably attend more social events to meet more guys. Plus have confidence in yourself and ability to attract the right person into your life. Take the time to list the qualities you would want in a mate (be detailed) and live your life and see what happens. It is one thing if u have regrets but don't let someone else make you feel guilty about you. Accept yourself for your accomplishment and flaws. Admire your ability to be flexible and adventerous. Plus without flaws or failure how can anyone grow. Plus try not to have regrets but look at those things as stepping to make you into the person you are and who you want to be. So I hope this was some help. I am sure deep inside you know that you are worthy of happiest and should not feel guilty 4 being u. You are not the only person with this problem in fact I need 2 take my own advice. Good Luck.
2007-03-25 13:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by Alone/Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 19:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents can say some pretty hurtful things. Ignore the rude things, and ask questions about her life when you talk to keep the focus off of you. If you think it will help, tell her how you feel. She might lay off. All in all, she probably just wants what is best for her child, and may not realize she is being hurtful.
2007-03-25 13:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by prettygirlsmakegraves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn the tables and tell your mother she is the failure. She is failing to give the undying support and love wtihout boundaries a mother is supposed to give. Don't let her expectations be your own, you are 33 and deserve to live your life the way you want to. I commend you for taking the risks and pursuing different things. As long as you are happy, you aren't failing anything!
2007-03-25 13:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by erin c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's different, and has a right to run their own life.
When your Mom says things like this, don't bring the conversation down to her level. You have a right to be you, and your unique strengths will come in handy some day.
Many people that love you will say hurtful things----you can't change this. But you can change your REACTION to what people say to you. Don't let your emotions react to what is said. That is giving someone power over you.
2 great responses to use are:
"Oh?"
"You may be right."
Then, change the subject.
2007-03-25 15:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your problem to God and leave at the cross. Talk to Him and he will hear you and have faith that in time there will be a change in you or your mom.Or both. God if you know Him personally helps all in need, I am 49 married and have 3 grown children, all aren't married and all in 20's. If God wants them to be married He will supply them with mates. Pursue your dream and if God wants you to be married He will send someone your way. Lean on God for all things in your life. Without Him things seem hopeless. John 3:16
2007-03-25 13:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by rkvh11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can choose your friend but not your family! what a shame!!!!
You are past a young adult and you need to get a backbone with your mother. Tell her how you feel and the consicuences of her actions if she doesn't stop. You do not have to put up with abuse from anyone in this world,even your own mother!
2007-03-25 13:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're 33 and old enough to make your own decisions...i think your mother should just let you be...but then again if she's still supporting you then she's got the right to tell you things....maybe she wants you out of the house and she's just pushing your buttons to do so...but if i were you ...I'd get a job and live on my own and that's the only way you'll get her of your back......and even you will feel good about yourself...
2007-03-25 13:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by guess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is not respecting your boundaries. On the other hand you allow her to pry into your personal business. You do not have to tell her anything. She will get upset about this but it will teach her to respect you. Her opinions about you are just that, "opinions." They are not facts and her opinions do not determine who you are as a person. Don't be afraid to get counseling if you have a hard time setting boundaries with her. I wish you well
2007-03-25 14:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by mjohnson1422 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me your mother only wants the best for you in life, she may not sound like it but she does. Go to another school like you are planning to, graduate and prove her wrong. And you will find someone when you least expect it, they will be right smack in front of you
2007-03-25 13:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by key to your answer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋