He corrected my math entries by taking my pen from my hand and giving it back, each time caressing my hand.I’ve caught him staring at me during classall the time.Soon, people in class started noticing us always smiling at each other. He would touch my hair,knee, but I thought it was an accident, and he would playfully tease/ joke with me.Then, I found out he had a wife, and I was angry that he could do that when he has a wife he gave vows to.I am not a home wrecker so I stopped looking at him. With the difficult class, I needed his help so I continued seeing him during professor hours. He became bold and started grinning, blushing and checking me out, and then he checked me out every single time he talked to me…even when others saw him.That made me feel like an object.What was he imaging when he looked at me that way, that he is having sex with me?Well, I saw him this semester and the feelings came back and I gave him a hug, almost kissing him. He has a wife yet seems unhappy with her
2007-03-25 13:20:21 · 19 answers · asked by Shelly Shelly Shelly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He has a wife. You need to let that man alone. You think you are an object now, him looking at you. How are you going to feel having sex with him and then him going back to his wife to spend the night. Believe me, you need to turn around and run. If he would cheat on his wife, he would cheat on you. If he does it with you, he will do it too you. There are plenty of good looking single guys around that you can go after. Don't put your heart on the line with a married man. Runnnnnn!!!!
2007-03-25 13:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by operationspiritlift 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, take a step back and look at the situation from a different perspective.... his wife's. Do you think it is honorable of a professor to "hit on" one of his students when he is already married? That is unethical on so many levels.
Consider if you actually want to become involved with someone who isn't being honest to his current partner in a committed relationship. Quite possibly he has done this before with other female students. Keep in mind some men like to play the field and will do or say whatever it takes to score points with you just to see how far they can take the flirtation. Would you want to be named as a reason in a divorce proceeding?
Older, handsome, intelligent professor focusing on young nubile, fresh, eager, young college student. That is story that occurs too often. Why wouldn't you be flattered... the situation feels exciting but that is due to the fact that it is illicit. Is he someone you could take home to meet your parents? Is he someone who would hang out with your friends? Do you possibly imagine going out with him in a public place, to dinner or a movie? Nope, not while he is married... it would be secret meetings, hidden trysts and ultimately you would feel used because you would be used.
How do you know his wife doesn't make him happy? Did he share that with you or do you know her and their situation. What makes you believe that he would stay true to you? You say you are not a homewrecker, but sweetie, if you pursue this ...actually that is what you will be. You deserve better than that, you are better than that.
Don't continue to have tunnel vision where you only "have eyes" for your professor. Look around, I'm sure there are unattached and interesting men that you just haven't noticed yet or they haven't had the opportunity to meet you! Don't sell yourself short or set yourself up for a whole lot of hurt.
2007-03-25 15:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by dryad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your professor is gettting himself into big trouble with his career and his own marriage... Are you done with his class yet? If you arent, I suggest you to stay quiet with this situation for now because you dont want him to give you bad grades. When you do see him for office hours, do not initiate anything that makes him think you like him. But I suggest that you should go to a tutor or someone else for math help. Your professor will not help you much when you visit him on office hours because he's only going to flirt with you. After this semester is over, you should talk to the school about it. This is very unappropriate for a professor to flirt with students. He needs to be fired because he's crossed the line of how relationships between students and teachers are suppose to be.
Math teachers are perverted for some reason and they tend to hit on the students when they're attractive...lol. I remember my friend's math teacher calls her sweetie. My friend gets annoyed by it and makes her avoid seeing him for help.
2007-03-25 13:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me when I say avoid him. I used to date nothing but married men...i know shame on me. It is a disappointing pursuit and the only one who wants more is you. If he has feelings for you he'll leave her and then come find you. Besides why give yourself to a one sided relationship? No matter how exciting it is, it is much more satisfying have a relationship you can shout from the mountain top about and not have to hide anything.
2007-03-25 13:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by erin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Request to be moved to a different classroom,don't feel sorry for him.You probably are not the first person he's done this to,and you won't be the last unless you report him.What he is doing is inappropriate,and unethical
2007-03-25 13:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by Robert C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but you sound like a smart girl....
Do yourself- and a lot of other people- a favor: Forget about flirting with someone who is not only older than you, but also someone who can harm your reputation....AND WHO HAPPENS to be married...!!!
You have your life ahead of you.
Don't do something as dumb as getting involved with someone who is CLEARLY unavailable and also playing around....
You may think he is special or that HE thinks you are special but that is one of the oldest lines around...He has more experience than you because of his age; so you are at a disadvantage here. (The "My wife doesn' t understand me" excuse is as pathetic and as old as marriage itself.)
If you start to play with fire, sooner or later you will get burned!
Good luck....Be careful.
2007-03-25 13:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is not your professor this semester, then neither you nor he is acting inappropriately. Just know that you would probably be a fling on the side, rather than a long-term relationship.
If he is your professor currently, then you should not get involved at all. It would be inappropriate for you and for him.
2007-03-25 13:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay away chic believe me it isn't worth it. He is not going to leave his wife, I know some professors can be enticing, just try to be strong. good luck
2007-03-25 13:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by nima 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is disgusting. Distance yourself from him completely. It doesn't matter if he is unhappy with his wife or not... you are better than that. Yuck. I had a professor like that years ago (I never took him up on his advances - I thought it was creepy) and I found out he cheated on his wife with a different girl every semester. What kind of guy does that and brings the possibility of disease home to his wife?
2007-03-25 13:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by itsjustfoolishness 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Maybe hes getting a divorce. OR...confront him, i would. say "how's ur wife?" when hes checking you out. HOW OLD IS HE???please do tell
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2007-03-25 13:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋