Such as hiding account passwords just to make a certain privacy with each other co'z i think it's not right to keep things even the small ones from u'r partner especially if u'r not afraid of something to be discovered? It's no big deal.. And it's just provoking your partner to have more doubt than trust.. And telling everything makes things much easier and uncomplicated..
2007-03-25 13:06:13 · 14 answers · asked by Thing 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife doesn't know my e-mail password. No, I don't have anything to hide from her ... except, maybe, the e-mail receipt for the flowers I'm going to surprise her with next week for "no good reason."
When women have a "girls night out" they may talk about their husbands, and the conversation may not be flattering, but at the same time, it's "girl talk" and not meant to be taken personally.
I have, metaphorically speaking, "guys night out" with a couple of my good friends from college. However, they live 2000 miles away, so our correspondence is via e-mail. I know things about them that they don't want anyone else to know. I don't necessarily think it would upset them if I were to share those confidences with my wife ... but I don't, because I value their friendship and the confidences they have shared with me. Those, too, are protected via my e-mail password (along with one friend's joking references to the ball and chain ... he thinks my wife is great, and he's just kidding, and he knows that if he ever took it too far I would deck him).
My sisters have a tendency to hit the "send" key without thinking sometimes, and say things that, in the detached world of the typed word, come across as more hurtful than intended. My e-mail password hides those from my wife, so that she doesn't get upset.
I am in counseling (for depression, dating back to long, long, long before I met her) and the content of my counseling sessions is also off-limits to her.
It's actually somewhat simplistic to say "telling everything makes things much easier." Sometimes, it isn't, as I've tried to demonstrate with some of these examples.
Of course, I haven't given her any reason to want to read my e-mail. She knows I love her, she knows that I've faced temptations (we've talked about it ... and she knows that I know the consequences of giving in to those temptations), and she knows that I am doing my best to be the man God wants me to be in her life.
She doesn't need to read my e-mail ... all she needs to read are the love letters I write to her, or see the joy on my face, or feel my arms around hers, or see the commitment I have to providing for her needs.
2007-03-25 14:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by JohnD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married before, and I can say that it's not unreasonable to keep your private email password secret. Now, I would say that you shouldn't keep the fact that you have an email account secret, but the password, yes. Everyone deserves some privacy. If the fact that you can't get into his personal email makes you feel like he's "up to something" then you don't have real trust for him in the first place.
2007-03-25 16:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by rn7471 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a committed relationship, there is no reason to hide those kind of things. It is important to be open and honest. If it is a somewhat new relationship, then you have all the right to keep certain information a secret. But usually if the person is super protective about that kind of thing, then that person is most likely hiding something.
2007-03-25 13:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone should have privacy, whether married or not. I don't think it is at all unreasonable to keep secret passwords just that...secret. If you're pressuring your spouse for his/her password, then you are smothering him/her. (And telling everything doesn't necessarily make things easier and uncomplicated.) It sounds as if you have issues with trust.
2007-03-25 13:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not right. If you are married, you don't have "secrets". When you feel the need to start hiding what you perceive as small things, that leads to hiding bigger things. It is deception and it is wrong. With all the other things that married people have to maintain, the last thing you need is/are trust, doubt and deception issues.
2007-03-25 13:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jazzie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a right to SOME privacy in my life.. i have friends i email, and my own email. he has his own email.
he has his own cell phone, and i have mine.
it's not about keeping secrets, we trust each other. if he would ask to use my email or cell phone, i don't have a problem. but the issue has never come up, because it's not an issue in our lives.
if a person is desparate to read their partner's email, or wants to know who he or she is calling on their cell phone, i guess there is some reason for mistrust?
privacy isn't complicated.
2007-03-25 13:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mariage is based on trust and love.
Two different people make a committment and try to work things out.
Yes, having a little privacy is OK. But if there are trust issues behind it, work on them.
2007-03-29 04:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think even the most devoted people can have a online friendship and start to fanatize about someone else if their private life isnt close. i would tell my husband it hurts me and wouldnt like it.
i think once agin even the most devoted can get into trobule online.
2007-03-25 13:14:25 · answer #8 · answered by jerry w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem with keeping your email private, as long as you don't mind your spouse doing the same thing. Just remember not to do anything that you can't tell your spouse about. :)
2007-03-25 13:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
such a petty issue, why worry like you said its a small thing
2007-03-25 13:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by boonoora 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋