what can it mean,i know she was abused by her father when she was a child.This is the dream i have .I have had a reocurring nightmare and last night was the worst i was soaked with sweat i seemed awake but could not move,it felt as if some one was slashing me or harming me some how.Then i woke up later on and all i could see was, This tunnel with you at the end of it with the light shinning behind you and me calling out to you and reaching out.But you would not reply and i was getting further down the tunnel and you and the light were fading away with me still calling and reaching outfor you .Then things changed i had become you as a young girl,you was holding a teddy bear and you was in the tunnel and you was calling out and trying to reach out,there was a figure with the light behind it,but i dont know who it was i think it was your dad it may of been me im not sure.
2007-03-25 13:05:07 · 2 answers · asked by The Ghost of Scousertommy 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am neither a psychologist, nor a dream interpreter.
That said, it sounds to me that you are grieving (the loss of the girl, for the girl’s pain, or the loss of an aspect of yourself), feeling helpless, confused, and trying to understand what happened (“WHY?”), as we usually do when we experience a significant loss.
1) I think that you are in pain, and feeling helpless to escape it –- (“I was soaked with sweat i seemed awake but could not move, it felt as if some one was slashing me or harming me some how.”….)
2) and the other part of the dream tells us about the nature of the pain (“…tunnel with you at the end of it with the light shinning behind you and me calling out to you and reaching out. But you would not reply and i was getting further down the tunnel and you and the light were fading away with me still calling and reaching out for you.”…).
The light is where she is, the exit from the tunnel is there, too. We all know what that type of dream feels like. Utter helplessness – you cannot stop the drift, you cannot make her respond, and your emotions are intensifying.
(By the way, what would happen is she did respond? Would you move back towards her? Would she join you in the darkness of the tunnel? How would that feel? )
3) I take the third part of the dream as sign of your confusion and of your grappling with the “WHY” question. You apparently feel that her trauma played an important role in your break up. You feel empathy and grieve for the hurt little girl inside of her. You are taking her place for a moment, feeling what it feels like to be a little girl sliding into the darkness of the tunnel with her pleas unheeded and nothing but a teddy bear to comfort her.
Your confusion centers on the identity of the man who let her down: Her father? You?
You could be feeling guilty, broken-hearted or wronged (that you were in an unfair situation, that you paid the price for her father’s sins).
My particular interpretation may be way off (I don’t know anything about you, her, your relationship, or the way it ended). However, whatever the particulars, the one meaning of the dream that would stay the same and that I would take seriously, is that you are hurting or traumatized rather badly to have ongoing nightmares like that. In your place I would talk to someone (a priest, a counselor) to sort it out and regain my peace
http://www.dreamschool.org/4Research/nightmares.html states:
Recurring dreams happen when your subconscious mind (where the dream comes from) really wants you to get the message! It keeps repeating it over and over until you heed it. When you listen to the dream message, learn from it and act on it, the dream will change.
I don't necessarily believe in universal symbolism of dreams (I have heard of many personal ones), but if you are curious, you can check out the dictionary of dreams:
http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/
2007-03-25 17:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nightmares are your minds way of trying to make sense of the situation and i think that maybe because she was abused, there may have been intamacy issues (that why she is not responding to you in the tunnel) i think you have unresolved issues here,
i think that u should call her or get together for a coffee and talk things through
good luck,
2007-03-25 15:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by leanne r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋