He was heavily into dominace when we met,which was fine with me. Now he rarely wants to "do it". He certainly doesn`t mind sitting online playing poker or watching movies or viewing pictures of half naked horney women.He still talks (OCCASIONALLY ) to ex girlfriends online/myspace but nothing more than everyday chitchat . He flirts at work (he is a paramedic and works 24 hr shifts) sometimes he has female partners and I get irritated with the flirting.He is only 30 GEEZE!
2007-03-25 12:57:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I love having sex with him and he knows it and I don`t mind getting wild...actually I prefer it that way...only a couple of things that could "SPICE IT UP" and those are pretty much a no go. :)~
2007-03-25 14:36:52 · update #1
I had the same exact issue when I was married; our entire last year of marriage was sex-free because of his rejection, time after time. I know it's difficult since, as a woman, you feel it must be something you're doing/not doing; trust me, it had nothing to do with your sex appeal, so please don't think that.
There could be several reasons for his loss of interest:
1. He looks at porn because it's less demanding, so to speak. It's not because of you, it's because it's a quicker way to relieve stress.
2. He's bored with your current sex life. In other words, it's the same thing every time, with just a slight variance every once in a while. If this is the case, it's time to spice things up.
3. He's interested in moving on. This is a possibility, but the last to assume. If you feel this might be the case, seek out counseling alone then with him.
4. He doesn't feel sexy anymore, period. This could explain him avoiding sex and looking to artificial women (porn) and flirting. The flirting makes him feel better about himself when she reciprocates.
In any case, it's best that you sit down with him and figure out what the next step should be. If he seems unwilling to move further, you might want to consider the counseling by yourself so you can figure out the next best step for YOU. Sometimes these problems work out on their own; other times, it takes a lot of work from both parties. Good luck to you. :)
2007-03-25 13:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went through the exact same thing but from the other side !! When we meet we had sex 3 times a day and all over the house,car,park..... you get the pic. After a few years of being married she slowly began to berate and " nag " (for lack of a better word ) to the point i did not want to be around her let alone touch her !! I tryed to tell her and we even went for counceling but she naged me about what I brought up there ! And refused to entertain the notion that it was not 100% my fault ! I found it refreshing to just have a conversation with other girls and fun to find some were attracted to me and there was life outside the constant fighting ! We have been divorced 3 years now
2007-03-25 13:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by russ_russ_kautzman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be cheating, but the flirting at work is the direct reason he isn't interested in sex with you. You two need a weekend or vacation alone together. Make date nights, be romantic, do something you've never done before. Also, make sure you tell him you are interested in renewing the magic of your relationship. He may not even realize you are hurting. Best of Luck.
2007-03-25 13:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by StormyC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know girl, my husband and I have a pretty good marriage except he never wants sex... I don't see a light at the end of the tunnel so you're really going to have to get to the bottom of what's going on or it isn't going to change.
2007-03-25 13:15:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl maybe you need to spice things up a little buy a new night gown and some pumps a put it on him do a little nasty dance.
it sounds to me that it might be getting boring to him and yall need to spice it up get back in love go out on a nice date alone good luck
2007-03-25 13:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by m. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be wearing blinders.
i don't know many husbands who are faithful and talk to ex girlfriends online.... i don't see what thrill an adult male of 30 would have on My Space unless he was cruising for chicks.
if you have issues with your husband and your sex life, communication is KEY. Talk with him, tell him how you feel.
take care
2007-03-25 13:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is bored, spice things up.
2007-03-25 13:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either gay or getting it on the side or you now weigh 400 lbs.
2007-03-25 13:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't get irritated with him talk to him....
2007-03-25 13:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is cheating on you......confront him
2007-03-25 13:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋