My husbsnd loves me , I know this, but why does heopenly flirt with my best girl, if he knows it irks me ?

Question

This happens everytime she comes to my house. I dont blame her or him I just want it to stop

Answer 1

Flirting is a natural part of a good sense of humor and one of the joys of being human. There's nothing wrong with a flirtatious nature, in fact it's a very attractive trait.

However, maybe you could be more specific about what 'flirting' in this case means. If it's a natural part of his upbeat nature then guess what this is the man you married, he was like this before you married him, and it's completely unfair and cruel to expect him to change who he is.

If he's doing more than just having a flirtatious personality (in other words, if he's actually acting inappropriately or actively trying seduce this friend) that's not flirting, that's something else entirely. If this is the case you need to respect yourself enough to lay down the law. Draw his attention to the fact that marriage is an important covenant between two people and his actions are sabotaging and lessening that covenant, and that you won't stand for it.

I tend to think though from what you've said that this flirting is probably the more natural completely acceptable kind and you are being too nitpicky.

Answer 2

Well, guys sometimes do not even know. She is probably pretty hot, and he is probably attracted to him. You should have a very direct conversation with him. While it may not stop it, it will probably get him to think about what he is doing before he does it.

If you tell him that they way they act around each other bothers you, and he does not change his behaviour then you have a major problem.

Also, do not ever leave them alone together. My wife had a problem with the way I acted around one of her friends, so I agreed after she expressed herself, that I would not even really communicate with her friend. I would say hello when she came in and goodbye when she left, other than that I would pretty much leave the room and let them hang out, and come back when the friend left.

Answer 3

Hi Heather, my partners mate comes around a lot and sits next to on the sofa and i give her a hug(that lasts for 5-10 secs) and ask hows she`s been and hugs me back. I feel genuine affection for her but i do not fancy her in that way i just care about her but theres a line that i wouldn't cross and I'm sure she wouldn't my partner trusts me and i would never break that trust.
But if my partner said she was unhappy about me hugging her best mate i would stop.
you should talk to him you maybe your reading more into it than there is.
Personally id be more up set if my partner didn't get on with any of my mates, or she flirted with them behind my back.
So what I'm saying is he likes her but not in that way.

Answer 4

Evidently they are both getting off from their little game. Personally I would stop hanging out with the girl, she is no friend if she didn't put a stop to this the first time it happened.

Answer 5

I actually have a similar situation. My bf openly flirts with others...but I just ignore that because like you I KNOW he loves me. I also flirt openly with others too. I find it no big deal. Who ever if it BOTHERS you...sit him down and make him stop. Also ask your girl Friend to stop it too. Tell her to tell him off when he does it. If she's truly your friend she will do this.

Answer 6

In marrying a man you accepted you were marrying an inferior being who needed his ego pampering on a regular basis and who lived in a dream world where all women fell at his feet. I often come across things in life and on tv and say to men, "Surely men aren't as shallow as that" and even decent men assure me that they are! Just keep an eye on him, he can't help himself. If you think your relationship is at risk, then lay down the law.

Answer 7

Some people get off on making others insecure,it makes them feel more desirable.Also some people flirt with your friends to put you off your friends so they can isolate you and control you.
He should have more regard for your feelings and if your friend is genuine she should tell him to get lost.

Answer 8

My lady and I are together for 8 years and I "flirt" with her friends and we all laugh about it. It is harmless. It takes two to tango. It uplifts their spirits and makes them feel good. I am also a bartender and my lady has sat on the other side of the bar and witnessed me doing my job. It has happened to her, but I allow her to handle it and to let me know if she can't. Her friends are like sisters to me and I have gone out with all of them-like the token male-danced and flirted with all of them. I also act as their protector. If you are secure with yourself and your marriage---just talk to him, but try to get over it if it is harmless.

Answer 9

I would sit him down, and have a nice talk with him. Tell him how you feel about him flirting with your best friend, and that you don't like it. But let him know that you have no problems with him talking to her (especially if they are honestly good friends), just that the flirting is much too much!

Good luck!

Answer 10

does she flirt back at him...
In my younger day....I was a drop dead gorgeous women...I am not bragging I am getting to a point.
I flirt with all the guys....it was in my nature.

I am older now...and am not as unfeeling as I was then......but it was all innocent...with me.

It made the guys feel more powerful as men that's all.
Have you tried to just chime in and flirt alone with them...

Is it just you are jealous?
Because you could lose a best friend and a husband...because of your jealousy.
Tell your husband to please be aware that it hurts you.

I lost a lot of friends back in my day...because I really did not realize how it hurt.
I have never been a jealous person...so I could not see.