ok when there is someone very outspoken i feel very intimidated.i dont want to feel like that any more .i want to have an outspken atitude. Being shy is not fun at all but i dont know how to be outspoken.im just quite when i sit in lunch with outspoken people.pleae help.i dont have friends either cuz of my attitude im tired and want to change.
2007-03-25 12:50:46 · 4 answers · asked by ♥I_rock_you♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have the same problem. I have been around very outspoken people and it is frustrating especially when they take your quietness as being unknowledgeable when in fact you would rather not get into it with them. Some people are not just outspoken but argumentative and I don't know about you but I try my best to avoid arguments.Furthermore when you speak you are worry if you will be verbally attack by them. However, in my case I am so shy it is almost impossible for me to keep friends b/c I don't open up to them b/c I know how they feel about certain issues and I don't want to bother being argumentative. Also some people take your shyness as weakness when some times it is easier to be quiet than deal with their attitude. The only thing I can say is speak up, have confidence and don't worry about how other perceive you, If you observe the outspoken people most of them probably have an "I do not care attitude" which u may have to gain in order to say what is on your mind.
2007-03-25 14:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by Alone/Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same like you! I feel intimidated by very outspoken or smart people because when I talk I'll feel like ill say something stupid compared to them. So I usually stay quiet around smart outspoken people. However, I feel more comfortable talking to people with the same intelligence level as I am or anyone who is more quiet. Its weird, but I think thats the main reason why Ive been shy. Outspoken people are not afraid of speaking what's on their mind and dont care about what others think about them. You can be outspoken by just being more confident about saying your opinions. Dont be afraid to express what you think or feel.
2007-03-25 19:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have 2 talk no way around it . u have 2 participate in conversation. U have 2 come out your shell and b recognized. U hang around outspoken people so why don't u talk usually shy people hang with shy people. Get n 2 things that involve enteracting with other people such acting classes, sports, band etc and just start a conversation with one person an let the ball keep rolling the one person will introduce u 2 other people an so on.
2007-03-25 20:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I was once like you and people saw me as a mat, dump on me. I Finlay became so sick and tired until I found myself one day giving it back and guess what today those people think twice be for they put their mouth in gear. You was not put on this earth to live up to others expectations but your own, so next time someone comes off tell them how you feel watch the change good luck
2007-03-25 20:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by kray-z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋