we are married for 1 year.
2007-03-25 12:43:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Each to their own.
It depends on what you and your partner agree on. If you both agree to doing it, then why not eh?
2007-03-25 12:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by Deconstitutionalization 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can find long-winded answers to this elsewhere.
Swinging will rip your marriage apart if it has weaknesses such as lack of trust, lying, sex problems and insecurity. If these things are solid, it's likely going to be fine.
Married 1 year probably not good. We were together 13 years before the first time. Your commitment to your marriage must be DEEP. Most swingers we know have been married 10 years or more.
2007-03-26 07:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First question, do you both want to swing?
Really?
Or is the other partner just agreeing to do you a favour?
Swinging can be really exciting and, by the way, it helps if at least one of you is bisexual.
BUT, swinging does involve all kinds of hidden perils. How are you going to feel when you see your partner orgasm with somebody else? What do you do if your partner feels sentimental towards somebody else?
How well established is your own relationship? Swinging could be the final straw, or it might just bring you together. It depends very much on how you both feel about each other.
What do you do when your partner is treated badly by another swinger? How do you react? How close are you going to stay to each other during the swing? Are you going to swing with just one couple, or are you going to swing in a club?
What if none of the women present find the male of your couple attractive?
Swinging can get you into situations that can test your self-confidence to the limit.
And don't forget safe sex, even in a situation where you are sure that everybody involved is clean.
2007-03-25 20:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on you.
If you are secure in yourself, your wife, and your relationship... Good.
If the idea of your wife having a great time with another man is as big a turn-on for you as the idea of you having a great time with another woman... Good.
If it is something you are doing to help your spouse fulfill her fantasies while you fulfill your own... Good.
If you can separate recreational sex from love-sex that you two share... Good.
If swinging is a natural extension of your already abundant, or overabundant sex life.... Good
Swinging for the right reasons, between the right people can be a very liberating and life expanding activity that will bring you two closer together then you could ever imagine.
For more information, check-out The Swingers Board forums.
2007-03-26 15:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is only my opinion but, bad. If you are married, you are married. Part of your vows said forsaking all others. Why did you want to get married if the person that you married isn't enough. I know it's not exactly cheating, but whatever happened to monogamy in relationships, especially marriage. I don't think that people should get married if they want to continue to sleep with others. Besides, I've heard a lot of stories about things like that going terribly wrong ie: someone gets their feelings hurt, someone gets left out too often, someone falls for someone else. Doesn't seem worth the risk to me. I think the two of you should be asking yourselves why, after only a year of marriage, are you wanting to go out and have sex with other people? But as I said, that's just my opinion. :)
2007-03-25 19:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lilly 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Prob not a good idea at this stage in your marriage. Its usually more recommended for people in long term secure marriages with no jealousy or concerns and open to the experience. It can cause problems if you are not ready for the consequences and if not carried out in the right environment. It needs to be controlled properly and both of you need to be 100% confortable with the decision to do this.
2007-03-25 19:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by smile_girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have only been married one year, well, I would have to say it is bad. You should still be experiencing each other.
Opening up your sexual world to others is dangerous, rules of procedure (what you will allow and what is not acceptable) must be discussed and the intentions of both should also be considered.
2007-03-25 19:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends how secure your relationship is. If you are looking to get involved with other people be cautious and discuss the rules with your significant other. If you are already bored with your sex life look for a good divorce attorney.
2007-03-25 19:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by shasta559 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if BOTH are into it. IF so, then yes if not, then no. Also, depends on if you want to know (like your best friends) the people or they be more of aquaintances (someone from another department at work)
2007-03-25 19:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Trojan8408 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever floats your boat. my best friend's aunt and uncle were swingers. they are married now 20 years with three kids.
2007-03-25 19:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by Tania La Güera 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is a decision only you and your partner can make. Discuss it, but don't push in either direction. And should you choose to introduce a third person into your sexual relationship, make sure you use protection - by which I mean condoms.
2007-03-25 19:46:38 · answer #11 · answered by living_in_a_bell_jar 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋