I know this may be a stupid sort of question but, I feel like I always have to impress somebody even if i'm just hanging around the family. I hate it when my hair isn't perfect, or my outfit isn't great. I never used to be like this. Now when I go to the pool or beach I'm scared to get my hair wet because I think I'll look horrible, and I never wear my hair up at school or at PE because I think I look horrible. I mean in 5th, 6th grade, I never cared about this. But in 7th grade I became really popular and like, now I just feel like I have to look good all the time, how can I change this?
2007-03-25 12:42:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Thanks guys. Yeah I know I just feel too self-concious. I have the friends where I can be anything around, and then I have the "popular" friends where I feel like I have to be cool and not really myself to be with them, plus theres always guys around. blah blah blah. I mean I feel like if I look bad one day that will be the lasting impression on some people, when I know thats not how it is really. If you want to see how I look like you can look at my 360 page thing.
2007-03-25 12:58:04 · update #1
Be confident in yourself, know that the only person's opinion that matters is your own. So what if not everyone thinks you look pretty when your hair is wet and you just came from swimming....you had fun swimming didn't you?
Don't worry so much about what people think.
2007-03-25 12:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well everything is subjective, right... like some people probably think that you hair looks better up than down. I'm sure you look good either way. It sounds corny, but personality is what matters in the end... if you keep acting stuck-up and like a wet blanket etc ("I can't go in the water!") people won't think you're fun and won't want to hang out with you. People aren't nearly as concerned with your looks as you are. Make gradual changes... wear your hair up around the house and get used to it before you go out into public. Hair up is really pretty on most people. Wear nice clothes by all means, but don't be obsessed with it. Pride in appearance is important but it's having a negative effect on you. Just relax and realize people don't hang out with you just because of your looks. If they did it would be pretty sad, wouldn't it? You'll know your real friends from the fake ones if people start ignoring you because you're not wearing makeup, etc.
2007-03-25 19:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's stupid...just get over it...I'm in high school and I'm pretty popular too. I was a little like you before but I realized...that's just dumb. You souldn't care of what others think cause it just means your insecure. And not gettin your hair wet at a pool or beach...what fun is that? Any way...if people really like you, you won't have to try to be perfect all the time.
2007-03-25 19:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by sexiii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all i've got to say is that i was the same way. Then i realized that i look the same as other people and i dont look at them differently. Trust me. Its all in your head. People really dont pay that close of attention to your hair or what you're wearing even if it may seem so. Just don't focus on other people's opinions. Just let loose and go wild!
2007-03-25 19:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didn't even read your question. you are pretty as long as you have a good heart. sure you can buy trendy clothes at target, style your hair with herbal essences products, go to pay less and wear better shoes. but if you're a brat nobody will like you. don't let others try to change who you are. let your self esteem take over. and i know what you mean, it always seem like a competition between you and friends, but personality is truly primary. no lie. you'll do fine.
2007-03-25 19:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by NeonZebra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that..
Im sure you look gorgeous with your hair up or down.. You give a whole different look and style to yourself by wearing your hair up.. It looks much different then what YOU see when you look in the mirror.. Many people would think opposite.. Try wearing your hair up in a ponytail with some cute clips and a few hair strands to frame your face..
2007-03-25 19:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by MeganElizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry a lot of peaple do this I have a friend that HAD this problem. Try to let it go or you be like your whole life and might miss something inportant in the future. So try to let it go once in a while start small and work your way up.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-25 19:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by Emo Kid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You became popular because your friends like you for YOU. not what your wear. Don't be scared to be laid back. if they are your true friends, then they will be fine with it. If it does turn out that they dont like it, then forget them. They aren't worth it. You have to accept yourself for the way your are before others can accept you as well. ~
2007-03-25 19:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by pinneapple_418 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i kind of hav the sam problem cause i feel that way too. when i dont do my hair i look ugly and ppl tell me but i dont care any more cause i realized i dont need to impress ppl. try not to think about what ppl think of u. just b ur self and feel comfortable. i know its not easy but u really just need to giv it a try.
good luck
2007-03-25 19:52:09 · answer #9 · answered by Mathew B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you got your self in a mess but if you cant just be yourself around your friends because they dont accept you like then you dont really have friends. But if you can just be yourself and they are okay with it like they should be then its all good. the best thing to do is say f*** you if they dont.
2007-03-25 19:46:46 · answer #10 · answered by bethany_8_5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋