Well recently my girlfriend has been on a school trip in Chicago. I recieved a text message today saying"i think im Bi" At first i thought it was a joke, but she continued on saying she was serious. She asked if I would still love her if she was, i said of coarse, and we texted back in forth me trying to get the details. She said she talked to a few girls on the trip that are Bi and had not done anything. i was wondering if things would change between us.. she said "probably not", she said shes felt like this for years but finally told me. We have been dating for over a year and it bothers me now that she could be Bi, but really shes the same as when we started dating. I know this opens up possible 3 somes and things but im just not confortable with it for some reason, she says she hopes shes not , and im praying its a phase seeing as how we are in highschool still but, any advice would be appreciated
2007-03-25 12:28:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
She is probably just curious, and may be interested in experimenting. More often than not, it is a phase. A girl who is honestly bisexual or lesbian will generally be fairly sure of this by the time they are in high school, although not always.
If you aren't comfortable with it, tell her. If you are dating her, and she is interested in other people, that is reason enough to have a talk and sort things out. Honesty is for the best, and hopefully things will work out. If this is too much of a problem, then it is best to find out now, rather than let it become a bigger problem later.
2007-03-25 12:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by BDOLE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She IS the same person you have been dating. Nothing has changed, except her trust in you that she could tell you and you not freak out about it.
The girls she spoke to said they had not done anything, so that would mean a discussion of finding other girls attractive, etc.
I recently discovered I am bi, but I have been with my husband for 12 years. I told him recently and I have been "playing" with girls since. I like to play and pet, but I don't prefer to have a woman as a dominant partner. This is not a 'you' issue, it's about her. You can be supportive and accepting as she travels through this period in her life or you can be worried about it taking away from you and be intimidated. That is what she was asking you.
2007-03-25 13:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She trusted you; good on you for not freaking out :) Coming out is a profound statement of trusting someone.
It can be disturbing or distressing to learn something new about someone you love, and :) when people are surprised sometimes they don't act their best. And sometimes when people are worried about someone or themselves they don't act their best either. Eeverybody has fears, and hopes, and all of us sometimes communicate badly...
Just because one is bisexual does not mean, by the way, one isn't monogamous, or desiring monogamy. So don't assume she's telling you this to suggest you have a three-way.
You are both young; you're both hormone-city and just figuring out who you want to be, so yeah it could be a phase. That would be ok; and also ok if not, right?
I hope your friendship isn't a phase too.
You probably have questions; this is one place you can ask (though as today makes obvious, not everyone is respectful of everyone else... so here's some resources:
2007-03-25 12:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These days whose not, you will be OK, I think. It really depends on your relationship and how strong it is. She's going to want to explore without you, I think you guys need to discuss your role in her new Bi life. Good luck, keep in mind three's a crowd, your relationship will not last that way.
2007-03-25 12:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by Vanity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many men regard a woman being "Bi" as a plus...
Like you say, it opens the door to her inviting
other girls over for 3somes...
Don't let her have affairs with other girls without you...
2007-03-25 12:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he is ok. He isn't the one that is Bi-Sexual and i am not saying that his girlfriend isn't ok. But personally i don't have a problem w/ gays/lesbians/or bi-sexual.
2007-03-25 12:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by Abby,,[[RAWR]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it want to find out after marriage and kids?
2007-03-25 12:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, you will accept her for who she is, but if it makes you feel uncomforatable, dump her, but dont make it seem your dumping her cause she's bi, that might make her feel bad
2007-03-25 12:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her invite someone over. Enjoy.
2007-03-25 12:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by pater47 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.........are u ok
2007-03-25 12:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by ................... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋