Are these true friends?

Question

i never had a real friend in my life NEVER.my friends tease me all the time.they never look out for me when i am in trouble even when i help them out.they say i am ugly but i am not.they tell me to shut up when i want to talk.when i say i am not there friend any more they dont do anything.when i stop talking to them they want me to talk to them.sure they send me emails once in awhile but still...they say i am boring too.i dont talk much because i have nothing to say and i am VERY VERY SHY.somtimes i hate there guts they even back stab me.i dont want to stop talking to them because i dot have ANY friends.it because i am too shy.i only had one real friend in kindargarten and when we got older we fell apart we stopped talking and had new interest.my so called friends dont tell me any thing.how do i get REAL TRUE friends.i am a loser arent i.i LOVE naruto he awsome but dont think he should be called friend since he isnt real.what should i do. :(

Answer 1

Okay, Sweetie, listen to me. First, stop being hard on yourself. When you say mean things to yourself, it only lowers your self-esteem, which makes it harder for people to get to know you. Second of all, no, those are not real friends. They obviously don't like themselves, and they take it out on you to make themselves feel better. The problem is that you listen to them! Try telling them that you don't like their insults and you don't want to be friends with them anymore if they keep insulting you. If they realize that they are being mean and they stop, there is some hope. If they do not, you are much better off being friends with yourself than with people like that. Third, getting away from those jerks will give you some time to work on yourself, to become more positive. Try reading some self-help books about happiness and individuality, connecting with your spirituality, or something else that will help you affirm your own value and self worth. Don't say negative things about yourself - what you say and think becomes your reality. When you say something bad about yourself, even in your head, correct yourself and make it something positive. Finally, there's nothing wrong with loving Naruto. What do you like about him? How do his friends treat him? One of the reasons you like him so much could be because he is a good person and his has good friends. Maybe if you imagine yourself as being one of his friends and think about him liking you for who you are, it will eventually manifest in real life. All this may sound silly, but it actually helps so much. The best way to make friends is to be a friendly person. Say hello. Smile. And let it show that you like yourself. It's easier said than done, I know, but you have to be strong and start somewhere. Take care!

Answer 2

First of all you ARE NOT a loser!!!!!!!!! They are the ones with the problem. IF they can't see you for the great person that you are then you don't need them in your life. The easiest way to make friends Real friends is to find something that you truly enjoy doing and then you will meet people who enjoy the same thing eventually you will get some great friends. Since you are shy it may be harder for you, but I am telling you now that if you continue to hang around these people then your self esteem will simply be ripped apart by their viciousness. That is not something that you need. You deserve better than that.

Answer 3

Im sorry to hear about those jerks. Not to be mean or anything, but i think the only reason they keep you around is to joke on and have a laugh at. I know its not right. To get a friend, you have to be a friend. All you have to do to get friends is be yourself and someone will like you. I dont have very many friends b.c i choose to only have a couple close friends i can count on. I dont know you, but there is no one who is a real 'loser'. Having friends does not mean you are a loser, it means you havent found the right people. It will take time, dont let it get you down. If you have a job, talk to peole there. Just a simple hello can lead into a conversation. Wherever you go (a church, mall, bar) just smile, be yourself and someone wil talk to you.

Answer 4

First of all, get rid of these people who claim to be your friend!! They are not even close to what a friend should be and they are doing you more harm than good! You deserve to have real friends! I would suggest going to places that interest you and trying to meet people thee. You could try to meet people on-line, but be careful with that! I know that it is hard to not have any real friends, but trust me...it's worse to have people surrounding you that only put you down! I wish you the best of luck! And, no, you are not a loser - you just need to find people who can appreciate you for who you are!

Answer 5

It was like that for me for a while, just ditch them and see if there's an Anime fanclub somewhere and join it, it would be a great opportunity to get new friends. In the meantime ditch them and find other friends, find someone who is always nice to you and ask them if you can eat lunch with them for a while. It's going to be awkward but eventually you'll get over it it. I dealt with the same thing a while back, things will get better.

Answer 6

Those people are not your friends. Don't hang out with them. You're only hurting yourself if you do. You deserve better.

You are not a loser at all. Or at least not in the negative sense of the word. I consider myself a lovable loser.
You need to find friends. Find people who have common interests. Join clubs and groups. You will make friends, it's not as hard as it seems. Just smile and talk to people.

In life you don't need a ton of friends to feel happy. Just one or two close friends.

Answer 7

well to prove your not super shy stand up to them they might respect you more and if that doesnt work ditch them you do not deserve to be treated like that and you can find some one who will treat you the way that you want to be treated and i know my one friend who is my best friend is always like omg no or ill start talking to her and she will be like shut up and then i tell her that i wont shut up and she has to deal with and and she will just be like ohkay w/e but i kinda hate that about her but then the next day she will be like omg lets go to the movies or something and you should try to be more outgoing it might help you or do something to shock ppl like lets say soem one is being bullyed go over there and be like hey that isnt right or if your at the mall with those ''friends" and they think a guy is cute go over there and talk to him

Answer 8

You should not care what other ppl think about you. Go out, be crazy and start meeting ppl! The more you act like yourself, not someone else, the more ppl will love you for who you are! :) Good luck hun! I'll be ur friend!

Answer 9

well i have friends like that but i know there joking. if your friends are kidding then its cool just tell them you dont like it when they do that. all of my friends are older then me and dont go to my school so wat i did was i started to talk to some1 and we have been friends for 3 years now. i was very shy myself but i got friends, once you get one friend you will usually get more friends 'couse youll be friends with your friends friends and so on and so forth so my advice for you is to make one friend. act like you lost thee hw assignment or something then start talking to them. the wordt thing thats going to happen is they look at you wierd and walk away. the way i look at it is if some1 treats doesn,t like you who cares thats one person out of how many people there are in the world. if you don't want to get ppl to treat you this way don't let no\w im not saying go out and torture them but tell them that you dont like and to stop simple as that


good luck getting friends

Answer 10

they don't seem like good friends...you have to stop being shy and start talking to a lot of people...you'll have friends in no time