Victim of bullying?

Question

Has anyone else who's ever been bullied still been affected by it years later? I was bullied by a girl for 10 years but she got away with it, and because of her her family and friends treat me like dirt and I still get crap from them (but not her) even though she hasn't bullied me for about 10 years. Most of the time I couldn't care less, but every now and then I get days when it's the only thing on my mind and I can't stop the memories. I feel so angry about the whole situation, in particular the problems I've had since she stopped bullying me, and there are times when I would gladly kill her. All I ever did was tell the truth about her bullying me and for that I've had harassment from her family for almost the same amount of time that she bullied me. She's a married mother now and I have to wonder if her two sons are going to be fed the same lies and start getting on at me like the rest of her family does. I'm just about ready to explode, psychologically.

Telling them to leave me alone just isn't going to work, they can't see that they are doing anything wrong. They genuinely believe that this girl did nothing wrong, even though she was nasty to other people at the same time, especially her step-dad. They just don't get it. This girl's mum and dad are the kind of people who just won't hear a word said against their children (both of whom are now married adults with kids of their own), and it's that which is causing the most trouble. They just won't accept the truth.
These people have fallen out with two other families in this street because of that ignorant attitude.

(It's not really relevent, but my avatar might look different because I found another face which looks much more like mine than the other one did. It's frighteningly accurate.)

Avoiding these people isn't really an option because they live next door! I did move out a few years ago but had to come back when my mum broke her hip and needed help. She still has mobility problems so I'm still here, two years later.

Answer 1

Firstly explore Karma and it's meaning, the fact that they are being horrid to you and probably others means that they carry a bitter, dark attitude around in their soul, does that sound like a happy person to you? I know that they are miserable because they carry this nasty attitude around, they may look fortunate or lucky but they certainly don't feel it. When you do get over this and minimise its importance you will regret time wasted, you are giving them power by letting it spoil your life, STOP. Go see your G.P. about some counselling, if things were okay this whole sorry situation would assume a different degree of importance. The best form of revenge for you would be to let it go, be happy and successful. Try to look forward to tomorrow and stop dwelling on the past, the future for you can be so beautiful if you decide it will, it really is down to you and as simple as that. You do have my sympathy I have been there and I regret the power I gave the cowardly inbreeds. Try and focus on the fact that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger and Through adversity you gain strangth. One day when you make sense of this you will be thankful for the lessons learned and the mistakes you won't make because of what you have learned.

Answer 2

Yes as both a child and an adult.I'm 41 years old.I hate being around children,I don't have a social life except for when I go drinking.Which I don't do any more,cause I married and have children.Soon my own children will have to deal with these type of people.I am hoping that I will be able to teach my children how to confront these people with their own insecurity's.It is very hard to stand up for yourself if you believe you are less than acceptable.I hope I can keep my children from turning out like I did.As to your problems as an adult , unfortunately if your enemy's won't change their evil ways,then you only have two choices.Choice one take action,confront those adults.Tell them how you feel exactly.Request that they reevaluate their actions.If they do not cease and desist Kill Them All .
Really,if there is nothing you can do legally to stop the harassment,move away.You can not change other people,but you can change your environment.
My self I choose to stay away from all confrontation ,but if I am treated badly now,I find pleasure in seeking revenge.It makes me feel much better!

Answer 3

I am so sorry that you are still suffering even after the bullying you received all those years ago.

Have you ever thought of phoning Childline. Their advisers would give you the information you needed and the support you needed to deal with the continued bullying you are receiving from the relatives.

I know that the bullying I had at school made a terrible negative affect on my life. But once I realised the bullies were sad little people who came from homes where they were made to feel inadequate and frightened, I felt stronger. How I wish I could go back to those days as the person I am now, and deal with it properly.

Good luck, hon.

Answer 4

Ahh. The old "internet Bullying" rub. There are a pair of radio categorised advertisements that tell people the thank you to end bullying. i ask your self in basic terms who got here up with this tripe? i've got confidence this so noted as bullying is in basic terms yet another achieveable reason in the back of the government to "help" us dodge some thing so trivial. it rather is particularly basic. don't be so skinny skinned. in all possibility maximum posters that are being "bullied" are those that still desire the worldwide to not be mad at us anymore. Granted, some anybody is sphincters, yet once you overlook approximately them they're going to bypass someplace else.

Answer 5

I can't say that I have suffered from the same as you, you poor thing. When I have had problems to overcome I found that by helping people in the same situation as me I found answers to my own questions whilst giving them advice. It meant that I got over the problem and at the same time I helped someone else get over it as well.

Answer 6

in the imortal words of rodney dangerfield 'relax youll live longer' but seriously they proably have alot of guilt anyway I was bullied and I bullied others and i feel worse about what i did than for what i suffered.
Stay away from them lifes 2 short 2 have your time absorbed by bad memories 'onwards and upwards' and if you need a hug : )

Answer 7

I was bullied at school and it still affects me in some ways-mainly I feel really nervous when meeting new people.

If I were you I'd report them to the police for harassment.

Answer 8

I know how you feeling...like you want to explode... stop hurting yourself and try to recover. Try not to think about that...if they bully you than find another solution by reporting the case in court.

Good luck!

Answer 9

Watch that explosion feeling!! There was a guy who was constantly bullied at my last school. A short time after we had left our school years behind us, i heard he had viciously attacked someone with a hammer!! and in all honesty i was not surprised!

Answer 10

Yes it still bothers me today.I have thought about
suicide.I was also bullied by teachers and employers.I always do what is asked of me
so why do I get bullied.I do not bothe ranyone either.
Go to www.jaredstory.com-about a kid who took his own life due to bullying.