I'll be 18 in about a week and I'm 10 weeks pregnant. I don't yet have a job, but I plan on getting one full time and one part time once I turn 18. I'm finished with school, and plan on moving into an apartment by this July. Do you think abortion is right? I haven't yet gone to college.. and I don't agree with abortions. I couldn't give it away to be adopted either. The thing is.. if other women want to get one, I say, well, I don't condone killing, BUT if it's right for them, then that's fine.. I just can't see myself doing it. I'm confused, as I'm sure you can see.. can you please tell me your personal opinion on abortion?
2007-03-25 11:55:02 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I don't believe an abortion is a good option. Once you do it, it's DONE. You will live with that choice for the rest of your life, and never know the blessings that child would have brought to you and your family.
When a family member of mine got pregnant at the age of 18, it was devastating for her and her mother. But, she had several options, as you do. She chose to keep the child. It was a financial struggle, but one she never regrets. Her daughter is now 11 years old and while they sometimes struggle financially, their basic needs are met. She just can't afford the many material extras, but she has been blessed by having her daughter in her life. And, others were generous in helping her. While her daughter is now in 5th grade, the mom is working full time and going to college, taking 1 class each semester. Think seriously about the consequences!
May you be blessed with good health, happiness, and have others to help you and your child!
2007-03-25 12:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well... In your case I would say to give birth to it no matter what. I believ that the only way abortion should be an option is if there was a case of rape or something like that. I understand you got yourself in a bit of a pickle here, but what do YOU want with the child? Put school and careers aside, if you were rich and had everything, would you want it? If you have the love for your child, I think you have great potential to rais it. Perhaps there is a family member such as your mom or grandma who you can live with and help you a little more than they normally would. If you feel you dont have it in you to care for the child, adopt it out. I think that is a wonderful choice and there should be no shame, you are doing what any mother would do: the best thing for her child. You would also be giving a couple the greatest gift of all too! Remeber some couples out there are unable and have been on that waiting list for 10 years even!!! You get to pick exactly who you think is right. Look into it. I think your heart needs to be in the right place when you think about his. Remeber don't look at what it will do to you (because you can ALWAYS go back to school, i did.) but what it will be doing for your baby.
2007-03-25 12:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not agree that anyone can just kill a baby (that has a heartbeat) just because it is not suitable to their current lifestyle. If that is the case, then either sex is not suited to your lifestyle or you need to learn about protection (not just pregnancy but other std's that can kill you!!). As to a refusal to adopt it out, although there is no doubt that this would be hard, what type of woman says "I'd rather kill my kid then give it to a couple who unlike me, won't end it's life". Adoption can be a wonderful thing and is better than murder! I am a bit harsh on this at the moment because I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks and wanted that baby so much so I can't understand how woman can just remove them from their bodies like a toenail and not their own flesh and blood. Please think this over carefully and talk to a professional who can guide you to help you make the best decision.
2007-03-25 12:20:59 · answer #3 · answered by soxy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't believe in abortion.
I am friends with a couple who had been trying to have a child for 10 years but could not, and they were able to adopt. Their child is well taken care of and loved all the more for all they had to go through to get him. The child is now 6 years old, and as happy as any kid could be.
If the mother had aborted, they would not have had the oportunity to be such a happy family.
Maybe talking to a counselor or someone could help you sort out how you feel so you can make a decision that works for you. Don't wait too long if you do decide to abort, it would be easier if you aren't too far along.
Good luck and God bless.
2007-03-25 12:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by dreamer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In your situation, I do not believe it should be an option. An abortion should not be used as birth control. If you don't think it is right, then don't do it. You will regret it for the rest of your lige. You can go to college with a baby. You can work through anything if you try hard enough. I am not religous so I will not preach to you. It should be your choice, but remember there are women out there who face worse odds and still come out on top in the end.
2007-03-25 12:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by lilly j 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
please don't get an abortion.
abortion is murder no matter how much pro-choicers try to convince you.
life might be ten times harder with a child at a young age, but in the end you will feel better about yourself
i have talked to many people that have had abortions, and they all regret it, they will always think about and wonder what their life would have been like it they didn't get rid of their baby.
getting an abortion will also cost you respect from many of your peers. I had a friend that had two abortions. i still am nice to her and associate with her, but i will never fully respect her.
a baby is a gift from god, imagine what your child can do, hey could grow up to be such a blessing in your life
abortion is wrong because it is infringing upon the child's right to live.
2007-03-28 12:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by travelchic91 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I can see being 18 and pregnant very confusing but I think you better think this threw and talk to your family....there's allot to consider.....I don't believe in abortion unless there's rape,deformity that cause sever pain or its unhealthy for the mom and death will acre...there's to many options out there today....family members, friends and even strangers will help you threw this,,,,,,,but its a big step to have one or even give up your child........yes YOUR CHILD.....that's what it is this very moment...I prey you do the right thing.....to be honest yes your young but not that young to be a mom....you have time to have the baby then get your education in college...so take your time making that decision....its a big one and you have to live with it the rest of your life....but your saying you don't believe in this nor can you give the baby up.....so what I'm guessing is I'm going to be seeing a mom real soon then.....congratulations
2007-03-25 12:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by Twiggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont even comprehend the way people think of. I cant have self assurance how a lot of people think of abortions are the responsable component to do.I guessing that none of you have considered the abortion web pages the place they tutor you each thing is completed .Its the main disgusting component.you need to visual demonstrate unit the video on utube .people say that woman have the superb suited to do what they want with there physique,yeah they did that they had intercourse and what occurs once you have intercourse properly in case you dont recognize you shouldnt be having intercourse.i think of abortions are ok i you the place raped and thats it.Im no longer judging people the two by way of fact I have been given pregnant while i became youthful and became going to have an abortion yet I did ought to enhance up and that i took my reasponsibility of having intercourse and had my baby particularly of murdering it.
2016-10-01 11:47:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not ok with it for me. I can't judge anyone else. I do however suggest that you consider what it will do to you psychologically and physically for the long term. I have many friends who have done this.... Many have turned to drugs to dull the pain (emotional) and are definitely not ok with it. I am 35, and 11 weeks pregnant with my 1st.... I was on the b/c shot (depo). For me, it was never an option because I knew I could never ever live with myself afterwards. I did'nt want any children and neither did my husband! However, after an ultrasound where we saw the heartbeat...... Niether one of us could even think about killing it. I think for me it was a choice in what kind of person I was. I felt that I was being given an opportunity to become an extraordinary person! I believe that with so many wanting babies and not able to have them it truly is a gift. To put aside selfishness and fear is truly an extraordinary act! Best wishes!
2007-03-25 12:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by gracie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont believe in abortion...i would never do it but i dont run people down who have abortions. only you know what you are ready for and what you can handle a baby is a big responsibility. i was 19 when i got pregnant the first time almost 20 and i am ttc my second and im now 21 i love my child wouldnt change it for the world but only you can decide. goodluck with whatever you decide. i can understand about adoptions i couldnt live knowing their is a child in the world who came from me and i wont know. all i will say also is people say its a life changing thing and maybe for some people it is but my son just glided into my life. he didnt change anything for me exceot i cant go rollerbladding till 2 in the morning. its amazing giving birth and feeling them kick and seeing them afterwards. it is all amazing. i would say try to keep the baby but if you know and feel you cant i understand and the people aroud you that know you shouldnt judge you and just accept your decision
2007-03-25 12:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by miraclebaby_2006 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋