2007-03-25 11:54:00 · 22 answers · asked by grace 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maturity. Infatuation is hormones and attraction that is bound together with an enormous amount of fantasy. When you are infatuated, you think about "how things would be"...you guess as to how the object of your "affection" would act and what s/he would say in certain circumstances....you assume you know how they would feel about you and you begin to think that you are already in a relationship.
Love is far less giddy.....in fact, if it comes at all, it won't come until the giddiness is gone. Love is quieter, stronger and clearer. Love is when you "cut the other person slack" without even thinking about it. Love is when that person is the one you most want to talk to. Love is when you trust that person and they trust you.
Love has far more integrity than infatuation.
You know, I just read about the relationship between John Edwards and his wife. Apparently he was in trial - a huge trial - much was at stake....and he had to make a split second decision about a trial tactic. He looked to the gallery where his wife watched and she nodded. They understood how the other thought; she knew what he was thinking and she gave her agreement. THAT is love.
2007-03-25 12:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your question is about love and you can love other people apart from your spouse, let me give you an example from my experience. I think I was infatuated with the girl I met and we became friends. I really wanted to have a close friend that I could share my thoughts, etc. Now, initially I was infatuated with her, with the way she was smart, stylish, insightful, full of original ideas, etc. As the time passed, I noticed that she judged me a lot, that she yelled at me and put me down, that she was unreliable and could not admit any of it to herself. I do not love her and this friendship has no potential, because our values are so different. So, being in love means really knowing the person and having a connection on a deep level, which you feel can develop further and further, because you want the same things out of life and one of those involves making this other person happy.
2007-03-25 19:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by Alyssa Macey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your particular situation for example: Your relationship with your husband is a factor. Infatuation is like a high. I remember my first experienced being infatuated. It was great your just high on that person when your with them and when your not with them ,your thinking about when you will see the person so you can feel that rush of infatuation. Love comes after, then that's when find out if you really care about,or love this person through and through.
2007-03-25 19:06:22 · answer #3 · answered by maxsteel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infatuation, according to the dictionary, is as stated: to inspire or possess with a foolish or unreasoning passion, as of love.
Infatuation can last as long as love. It's deeper than having a crush with someone, and it can feel as real as love. An outsider cannot tell you if you are in love, or infatuated with another, it is something you must see for yourself. Infatuation can fade quickly, depending on how the person who you have feelings for treats you (for lack of better terms). Infatuation can turn to love, if it is nurtured "correctly", or it can turn to obsession (depending on the person and their personality).
2007-03-25 19:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tapanga 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres`z really no easy way to answer that question because what is Love? Most of the time we`re just infatuated with a person but passing it off as love because we have`nt really felt those emotions`z before . .
2007-03-25 19:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by kobi g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are MANY reasons you can be infatuated, but only one reason you are in love. You may like the person for their clothes, their fine dining, their oh-so-smarty attitude that seems so attractive. There might be LITTLE things that make you so darned infatuated that you might swear on your grave it's love. But the main picture is: when you are infatuated, you like some parts of the person and you very must dislike other parts that just make you question the person. When you are in LOVE, you like mostly everything about the person from his/her hair to his/her clothes and personality and etcetera. Infatuatance is very naive, looking at little things, and love is the big picture.
2007-03-25 18:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by My Name Doesn't Fit Here 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Infatuation is liking everything a person is and over looking his flaws. Love is when you want that person to become infatuated with you.=)
2007-03-25 19:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by missionaryplus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
infatuation is the honeymoon phase, when the relationship is brand new, and very exciting, where u don't see their faults, and u and your love have not one difference at all. but soon when the lust wears off u begin to see that person and all their faults, and love them in spite of faults. love is a decision to stay even when things are not perfect, but infatuation or lust, only last but a brief time, and sometimes when this phase ends so do some marriages and relationships.
2007-03-25 19:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infatuation gets old fast and love grows
2007-03-25 19:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is a good one well why do u love this person ??? because to be infatuated is a like silly reason why u care for this person the def of infatuation is : A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction is that u ???
2007-03-25 19:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by mahoganysoul28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋