I recently had a settlement from my ex,cost me $25k, I left him 3 years ago and took only a few things, now iam buying a house should I ask him for some of the furniture he does not use, and is mine, or should I just forget about it and start a fresh,(but it costs a lot of money to furnish a plce on yr own)
2007-03-25 11:46:50 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If there's anything that has sentimental value to you, you should've already taken it. And asking for it now he'll probably wonder if it meant so much to you, why did you wait 3 years to want it? Ya know?
Honestly, I would start fresh. Yes, it is expensive furnishing a new home, but you don't have to buy the best stuff out there. Check yard sales, there should be quite a few over the next few months as people do their spring cleaning. Also, a hint on yard sales...the saying that one person's trash is another person's treasure is absolutely true. The best stuff you'll find in neighborhoods that are slightly nicer than what you currently live in. You'd be surprized what some people consider trash. My sister once got an ENTIRE living room set; sofa, love seat, chair, coffee table, 2 end tables, lamps, rug, throw pillows, etc., for about $500, simply because the woman had re-done her living room, and didn't want all that stuff anymore. It was in almost NEW condition. If you check around, you can find all sorts of stuff for next to nothing. You have to be a little more creative, but it can happen. Good luck!
2007-03-25 12:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it has already been three years it may be a little late to ask for your things back now. Who is to say he still has them anyways? Ask him and see what he says and he may let you have them but i am not sure. I dont think he has to though because it has been this long and you should have gotten your belongings a long time ago if you really wanted them. If he denies you then you will have to start all over again and buy your own. Good luck to you.
2007-03-25 12:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure there are items you really especially want and would be worth risking the rejection yes go ahead be brave and ask!
Personally, i have left everything behind a couple of times, because i didnt want the memories and didnt like the idea of my ex doing me any favours!
But if there are items that meant a lot to you and in particular, meant little to him, do give it a go, you have a good chance of him saying yes.
Be prepared for him to tell you he has got rid of them though ... this may come as a disappointment if this is the case.
Good luck!
2007-03-25 11:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Yard sales, auction sales and start small. There is a point in time when a women has to move on and forget about what they left behind. Someday you will realize it all material, smile and be able to say I did it!
2007-03-25 13:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by Emily L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask if the furniture means something to you. If its just about saving money, then buy new furniture on sale or look for quality used furniture.
2007-03-25 11:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are on speaking terms, then I would politely ask. My ex husband and I have been divorced for 12 years and he still asks me for some things. I know that they are mine after all this time, but if I don't want it, I'll give it to him....but only things that we acquired during our marriage. I STILL have some of his personal belongings that he says he wants, but we live 3 hours apart and it's not easy for either of us to meet up, so I'm hanging on to them until he decides he wants to take them.
2007-03-25 11:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could ask, however he may become very defensive. If you think it would tear down communications to try, buying new/one-owned furniture is a better alternative.
2007-03-25 11:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not as long as you 2 get along well
2007-03-25 11:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL ya, 75% of men are pigs. the other 25% are gentle men.The gentleman will treat a lady with respect even after hard times. If he is a gentlemen he will give your stuff back. IF no, F him!
2007-03-25 11:55:42 · answer #9 · answered by maxsteel 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
IF you wanted your things why didn't you take them three years ago? Now three years later after HE has stored them for you without benefit of payment you want them back? Why didn't you pay to store them some where else three years ago?
2007-03-25 17:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋