Should I stay or should I go?

Question

-single mom with 7 year old and baby due in June
-living in a building with 2 suites, single mom lives on bottom
-place is so bad that neighbors hear each others alarm clocks
-single mom tries to warm up her place and the neighbors have to open their windows
-single mom's enterance door echos in the neighbors place
-ALOT of tensiona and anxeity, finally resulting in neighbors moving, landlord selling, and mom to be worried about new neighbors and baby crying at night
-should single mom use the last of her savings to move to an aparment where the building is acutally built for more then one suite?
-or should single mom stay and HOPE the new neighbors don't complain and create more tension
-she is conflicted because: money. The place is cosmetically big and nice. Good location. BUT if she moves, she can find peace and relax with baby and child and not 'hush them' all the time or worry about 'normal' noise level

Answer 1

Ok, let's sort it out. Single Mom was pregnant before the new neighbors arrived, so tough luck to them on that point. 7-year old was there before the new folks. Again, their tough luck.
Single Mom wants some heat for the child and the baby? She gets it, it is a child and a baby. The others can open a window, turn their heat down, leave. And how nice of single Mom to heat their units for them! Cheaper for them.
Should single Mom go pay more for a unit with actual functioning walls that keep in sound and heat? Where there will be less tension? If the location is just as good, the unit nearly as cosmetically as good, Yes! Weigh this out: how many times a day do you shush the 7-year old, how many times will you jump up to quiet the baby? How many times will you feel guilty about the heat? Then add up how much less convenient a new place would be. Do the math, I bet you would spend less time being less convenient, than in all the shushing.

Answer 2

This is tricky i am a mother of a 2 year old and live in a place where i dont want to but find it hard moving as its lovely and in good location, i think that if you did spend your savings and move it would probebly be a good investment, the most important thing in the world you and your childrens happyness it will be hard at first but then it will all be over, and your 7 year old and one on the way wont have to witness all the arguing and tension goingon and as kids do, he can have his tv turned up, his music on and think not long and he/she will be a noisy teenager, but on the other hand how bad are the neighbours, can it be sorted because no matter what you do babys will cry, and if you give in to her every need to stop her crying, you will make a rod for your own back ( as you prob no ) think carefullyu as its the rest of your life, you can allways start saving again.

Answer 3

That's quite a dilemma. If it were me, I would probably try to move. I can foresee possible problems arising from the noise factor, which will only stress you out even more! It is probably better to move before you have a little baby to take care of because that would be really difficult for obvious reasons. I know it is tough to decide since you would have to invest your savings on it, but I think it would be healthier for you and your new baby to have a peaceful environment! I hope you find a solution and best of luck to you!

P.S. That's pretty bad if you can hear neighbor's alarm clocks. Perhaps the building is not up to code?

Answer 4

I say stay is you like the place & location. ANYWHERE (Apartment wise) you live you are going to have to deal with neighbors,parking issues,general "living" noise. I`d factor in utilities as well. You may end up in something that cost you more and may be even more uncomfortable than you are now. You can always give it ago and if you feel you have to later make a move. No rushes,in my opinion.
Good Luck
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Answer 5

It sure sounds like you should move. I know from experience that babies pick up on the stress and tension around them, especially from their Mom's and it will make them cry more and be cranky. It is like a vicious circle, the more they cry, the more up set the Mother becomes so the baby cries more. I think no anxiety would be worth the move. Good luck and I'm sure all will turn out all right. As long as your baby is healthy, the rest is nothing♥♥♥

Answer 6

move.. its better to allow your children to be children instead of hushing them all the time. Also living in a place that is too stressful on you is going to make it stressful on the kids. You already have enough stress.. Move and make it better for you family.

Answer 7

just move to another place ...because this place can put you in severe depression..and if there is health,there is wealth. Good luck!

Answer 8

Move.

Answer 9

You're in control either way.

Answer 10

go without a doubt.