I am gay, or at least bisexual. I started with women and turned to men, in time. Now, I found a woman and I like her. I am stressed that perhaps I will not have an erection or I couldn't perform as wanted.. Please help me because I like her. She knows about me. Thanks
2007-03-25 11:37:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Start with foreplay, guide her to start off by masturbating you, and you're bound to get an erection. As soon as you do, as long as the girl is also ready, don't lose any time and begin to have sex with her so the momentum that's built up will only increase. You could also try using toys on each other or watching some straight erotic films to get in the mood. Don't be afraid to show her what makes you feel good and then you can both enjoy each other. Also, when in bed with her, try to forget the labels of gay, straight, woman, man, etc and just concentrate on yours and her pleasure and all the good sensations...focus on building up the climax. You may want to play some music in the background that helps set the mood and take your mind off things so that you will be in the moment, or light some candles, incense or spray some room scents. Good luck.
2007-03-25 11:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-20 20:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really like her than having an erection shouldn't be much of a problem. But if you come down to not being able to then I suggest thinking of something that is arousing while having sex, even if it is thinking of men. She doesn't need to know what aroused you during sex, simply that you love her enough to want an erection and to perform "perfectly". As long as she knows that you are gay or at least bisexual and she is ok with that then it all should be fine. I suggest talking to her about your anxiety - you may find you have something in common and can work it out together. You'll feel less stressed and probably will have an easier time having an erection if your both relaxed.
2007-03-25 11:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 09:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as getting and keeping an erection, if you are attracted to her and comfortable with her (and you don't have any hang ups about being with a woman) then it should be fine. Try to think about the scene in your head...are you comfortable with it? If you are still scared take things slow with her- sounds like she is pretty understanding. Being honest is always the best policy. Sounds like she would understand if it takes a little longer for you to get an erection....if it never happens then maybe there is a deeper issue about you being with a woman. I think since you used to be with women (assuming you enjoyed it at some level) you will find that it is not that hard to go back to women, especially this kind woman who is accepting and attractive.
2007-03-25 11:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by RxJD2008Rx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An erection can be caused by both physical and mental stimulus. If the thought of being physically itimatewith this woman doesnt do it for you, then having her "warm you up" should probably help. Just try to focus on your feelings for this person and how practice visualizing her in a sexual way.
Also since it as been a while for you, it might not happen right away or on the first try, take your time and just go slow.
2007-03-25 11:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by Don't Fear the Reaper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a loaded question. If you like the woman fine, relax and things will happen, maybe a litte levitra will help for the first couple times until you are over the anxiety. BUT!!!!
I hate to rain on the parade here but if you are gay and you know this then it is going to be very difficult for you to just be with a woman and if you are allowing her to have feelings for you then you are being very unfair. GAY doesn't go away. It isn't a cold or something you can take a pill for. If the sex is just for fun between friends fine but AGAIN, do not hurt this woman just to make yourself feel like you might be straight. It would be incredibly selfish of you to do that.
2007-03-25 12:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe, over time, you might be able to talk this over with the woman that you like. Perhaps that would lessen some of the anxiety you are having.
I'm sure you're very nervous...who wouldn't be? Talking something like this out WITH YOUR PARTNER would probably be the best thing you could do for yourself, and for her. She probably has a lot of anxieties of her own, I am sure. And don't think she hasn't thought about YOU being nervous. You know, we all overanalyze stuff to some degree.
I hope this helps.
2007-03-25 11:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by Doodlebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Add in a healthy dose of exercise at least three times per week, and you’re well on your way to better sexual health!
2016-02-15 18:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your really attracted to her then you shouldn't have any problem. So don't worry, stress is only going to make you not perform. You did it before and you will do it again. A bisexual such as your self should not have any trouble - go for it and enjoy. Oral and fore play is suggested.
2007-03-25 11:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by Dale 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋