Men doing house work?

Question

If a woman is a house wife, should her husband still help out with the w\house work?

Answer 1

But I don't want a woman to do the housework. My ex-wife was really bad at it. Now that she is gone, the house is much cleaner.

It's really not that hard to keep a clean house. What is the big deal?

Answer 2

I agree with several posters already. A housewife is a stay-at-home wife, meaning that she has no responsibilities outside the home. And it's NOT a 24/7 job. If my girlfriend ever decided to become a stay-at-home wife/mom, that's her choice, but that would involve a more serious discussion of household duties.

I would work 8-5 to support the home; during that time, I expect her to be doing her job to keep the place clean, care for the pets/children, do the grocery shopping, fix the meals, etc. When I get home, then both of us would do whatever still needed to be done.

So if being a housewife is a 24/7 job, then being a working husband is TWO jobs; an 8-5 job outside the home and a 5-8 job within the home. I would help out with the housework, but she should do the chores that she actually can do without me; for example, I don't expect her to fix the car or pay the bills or mow the lawn, but I do expect her to vacuum the carpets and dust the shelves. I don't think that's too much to ask.

In general, I just don't see what stay-at-home wives (those without children) DO all day. Cleaning the apartment from top to bottom takes me perhaps two hours, and I don't see the need to vacuum every day. Then again, my girlfriend does most of the housework anyway because she hates the way I do some of it (this involved me strategically doing the laundry so poorly that I've never been asked to do it since).

Answer 3

Yes, he should. Everyone that lives in the house should help out with the housework. There is so very much to be done that if only one person does it, it will take all day and into the evening sometimes later. Once the other spouse is home, they should help equally so that the work gets done faster and they can both have time to relax and enjoy the time they have together. Being a stay at home wife and mom isn't easy. It's actually the harder job then being the one that goes out into the world every day to work. The ones that stay at home usually have more conversations with children, animals and plants then they do with other adults. And they usually see the same 4 walls everyday for weeks before they get out. And going grocery shopping doesn't count as getting out of the house. Neither does bringing the kids to school or sports or other children's activities.
Believe it or not, men do know how to wash dishes, do laundry, cook dinner, vaccum, clean the bathroom, take out trash, pick up their shoes and help the children with homework. We have moved out of the dark ages a long time ago. But most men don't want us to know that they can do that kind of stuff because then we will expect them to help us out once in a while. For those men out there that actually help out at home.. Kudos to you! For those of you that don't.. shame on you. Be careful because you may find yourself in the market for a new slave someday soon.

Answer 4

Absolutely. Running a household often takes no less than 18 hours a day. If the husband is working at a career/job 8-9 hours a day, then the housewife is outworking him by about 10 hours a day. So, yes - a husband should help out with the housework, with the children, with everything. The housewife is still going to carry the majority of the burden at home, but (especially when there are children to care for) there is just too much for one person to do to keep a household running.

Answer 5

Well, I'm old fashioned and I think men and women have certain roles. When I was a stay at home mother and wife my duties were:
all house cleaning, cooking and laundry. His duties were mowing the grass, fixing the car and shoveling. He did some grunt work for me, too. He also did repairs on the home. Only when I went to work did he help with the housework. (it was a struggle, but he did it) But it was minimal. I'd have him pick up and straighten up a room before I would go in and polish the furniture, scrub floors and vacuum. It might not sound like much, but it helped a lot.

If both are working, then BOTH should do housework. If you are lucky enough not to have to work outside the home, then I think whoever is home should do the housework.

Answer 6

That is something each couple should establish for themselves. Depends on what the guy does, how much time he works, what the woman does, and so on. I do some of the cleaning, and he takes out the cat litter, trash, and does his own laundry. But I think that if the guy is making all the money and providing for his wife, the least she can do is maintain a clean house and make dinner.

Answer 7

yes very much so cuz a homemaker is a longer job then a 9 to 5 job cuzit's a 24/7 job.Your wife will appreciate u a lot more when she see's u work n then come home n help the wife.I'll tell ya that I would do what I could to make my husband as happy as possible especially when he is doing the same for me.Even if u just make sure u don't give extra work for her n put cloths in laundry maybe even throw a load in here n there or offer to cook dinner or make breakfast on the wkends etc...

Answer 8

If thats all she does and has no other job, and the husband has external job??

Umm No then that makes it her job to keep the house.. but i would say the same if the roles were reversed.. and yeah i've been a house husband before... I'm retired.. in those relationships it was MY job to keep up the house.. the she's worked...

If are both working a full time job then the house work should get split.. but thats not the case here... You want a free ride? Thats what sugar daddys and maids are for deary.. i wouldnt put up with that at all, if you were a stay at home and had no job.. and I've had live in maids before in my 1st 2 live ins.. but we both worked... and could afford it... neither of us had to do S*it house wise really.. my 3rd relationship I kept the house as she worked and i was retired (with pension and own income it wasnt a free ride).. (only fair) Not a hard thing to do.. I was done before 10 AM... and I got up at 9 AM LOL Piece of cake...

Luckily I dont have that problem anymore.. I live alone.. and plan on keeping it that way... I have no one to b*itch at but myself in this case...

Answer 9

It depends on what you negotiated when you decided to be a house wife. Do you help your husband with his job during the day?
You both should take the weekends off around the house. If it gets messy around there, who cares? You can start back working around the house on Monday.

Answer 10

This might sound old fashioned but if your husband is working 40 or more hours a week earning all the cash and the wife doesn't work at all then I feel it is her job to keep the house clean. That doesn't mean he can be as messy as he wants at home, he still needs to respect her work.

Answer 11

Your blessed right they should! Housewife is not another name for maid or slave. Plus it helps them to feel like they are appreciated when you tell them how nice things look. Most people work at a job 8 hours a day and 5 days a week. A housewife is at her job 24 -7 and is rarely complimented, appreciated or given a day off. If you really want to show your wife how much you love her, then maybe tell her to take the day off and that even though you might not do as good a job as her that you are going to do the best you can to help with the cleaning and the laundry and dinner that day.