When I was pregnant with twin girls they were premature and I lost them. I named them and their names were Amanda Ashley and Sara Marie- My suppose to be very good friend was pregnant to almost due the same time I was. Well everything was very hard on me and my husband at the time losing our babies our world had been turned up-side down. Well my suppose to be friend at the time had her baby healthy girl and we went to see them and Congratulate them and bring thebaby a gift. Well I picked the baby up and was rocking her and I started to cry, I couldn't help it but tried to hide my tears-it was effident though to everyone. In the mean time her name had not been mentioned and I asked well what did you name her and she says proudly Amanda Ashley, I broke down and ran out to the car, she never came out to me or never gave me any reason why she would do this. Do you think this is tacky or is it just me being too emotional? We haven't been close since. We speak and that is it.
2007-03-25 11:25:23 · 8 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
we both had discussions on naming our children of course-we were friends- but she never mentioned Amanda for hers. and she never told me anything about doing this in honor of our child. It made me and my husband feel very strange.
2007-03-27 12:30:02 · update #1
even stranger-she has never made the effort to explain anything about doing this in memory. someone made the comment that she couldn't have come out -side to talk with me, after I ran out because she had just had her baby- that's not the case here-she was healthly as a Horse.and could have if she wanted too. that's why the big dilemma is the way they both have acted.
2007-03-27 12:37:24 · update #2
Although I would like to give your friend the benefit of the doubt about why she named the baby Amanda Ashley, there is no evidence to show that she did so as a tribute. If she had done so, she would have pulled you aside and told you this information in a loving and compassionate manner. Even moreso, she would have asked permission from you and your husband before deciding on this name. Furthermore, why wouldn't she have reached out to you and explained her rationale for using your name if her intentions were good ones. If she was a good friend she would have sought you out in your time of pain and explained the reasons for her actions. Some people in life are clueless and cruel. Also, some people have no heart and little imagination. She probably liked your name and figured that since you weren't using it she would just hijack it. This person is not a friend. Regardless, you had the first child named Amanda Ashley and she is now a star in heaven. Despite the fact that your babies didn't live they still existed and they were still human beings. It's too bad your friend couldn't realize that.
2007-03-25 12:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your friend didn't mean to be insensitive, nor did you mean to be over sensitive....what happened is that your friend wanted to find a way to honor the memory of the twins by giving her daughter one of the names you had chosen. I think that she should have ASKED you how you would feel about this before going ahead and doing so, after all, it is you who lost your babies. I hope that you will try to reconcile with your friend. I bet that one day you will be a wonderful Mommy to a precious child. My thoughts are with youand your husband at this difficult time.
2007-03-25 11:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Umm my great peers sure, however despite the fact that I love the ladies I hang around with, I wouldn't wholly believe them. It sounds terrible however I realize for a undeniable fact that they routinely gossip approximately each and every different. Either approach is say I have a few peers who're both reasonable climate peers and a few who're like sisters to me.
2016-09-05 15:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by kindle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she know you were going to name your twins that? If so she is very rude and mean to do that.
Sorry about hearing your two babies deaths.
2007-03-25 11:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Might she not have named the girl as a sort of tribute to your lost children?
This seems most likely. Why should she wish to injure you?
2007-03-25 11:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am very sorry for your lost. I think that was disrespectful of her to do that I can't believe she did that.I feel so bad. She is no friend of yours to do that at least she could have asked you if it was OK.
2007-03-25 11:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by Fashay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
did she know you were going to name one of your babies that? if she did know then she is NOT a good friend
2007-03-25 11:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, u need to get better friends and let this woman go %$#&$ herself!
2007-03-25 11:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋