how do i not be a third wheel with my friends ,nothing works?

Question

ok
i have a wonderful bestfriend named sierra
i met her in 7th grade
but when we met she already had a best friend(hunter)that i hate because she copys everything i do
(fav bands,colors,movies,guys..ect)
but they were really good friends and hunter and i hate each other and sierra always has a bad time with hunter . and so when we do go places together im always left out(which im hadly ever invited)
but it drives me insane
because right as sierra is gonna get rid of hunter ,she feels guilty about it,so she runs back and thier best friends again
and it sucks because sierra knows i hate hunter and she cares but what can i do because if i never see hunter again i never see sierra again ethier
what can i do????

Answer 1

What you need to do is to take matters in to your own hands. Is Hunter mean to you or does she just not like you? If she's mean to you then your best friend Sierra should take this into consideration - especially if you are one of her best friends. If 'H' is mean to 'S' as well, then 'S' shouldn't really consider her a friend in the first place, should she?

Instead of waiting and getting upset that people don't invite you places, invite people places instead. Come up with ideas and time to hang out. Before anyone else can say anything, invite them BOTH to the movies.

Also, you shouldn't put 'S' in the position of having to choose between two friends, it's insensitive and mean. And I think that's what Hunter's doing. You should point this out to 'S' and explain to her that you don't understand why 'H' is so mean to you and what not.

Answer 2

why don't you try inviting her places with you instead even try sitting down with her and telling her how you really feel about the situation you should be able to hang out with your friend without the other girl being around and if she's a true friend she'll understand

Answer 3

invite her places, invite her to sleep over, hang out etc...dont wait to tag along..say what are you doing next weekend? lets hang out etc. knowing that you dont like her other friend she wont ask all three of you to hang out