my wife never asks for anything or complains about the little things in life.(flowers, the odd prezzie). but i seem to be constantly thinking about what things i can do to surprise her,(just little things). does anyone else do this? i make it in to a job itself.
2007-03-25 11:09:31 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thank you all very very much, did not expect all them fantastic replies, which does answer my question beyond my expectation.i think i might be over doing it...but i'm not going to stop doing it....and biff...i've been married for 6 year and got 2 kids.......love you all
2007-03-25 11:26:51 · update #1
reason behind the question is that to me my wife does everything perfect,runs her own beauty salon the 2 kids,the house,me,which to me is alot more than i do.i feel that she deserves everything i can give...if ya know what i mean......you have been so kind
2007-03-25 11:46:39 · update #2
i wish i could give you all the best answer....i've got a tear in my eye.
2007-03-25 11:48:25 · update #3
you're unique... most husbands dont care...
2007-03-25 11:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To answer the question truthfully, Yes and No. In your situation, the gods have smiled favorably on you and your maintenance of the marriage to keep it in good working order are only a matter of romance and letting your partner know that you are thought about even when you are apart. She has a confidence that she is special and unique in your marriage, however, what about the married people that are in their marriage for different reasons? If both have the same goals and objectives and are working towards them as teamates your solution is great. If one or the other of the team has opposite vision for the direction the team is going the maintenance is considerable more difficult provided their ideals about marriage are strong enough to promote compromise. The relationships that include one or the other of the team has a handicap, sickness, mental or emotional deficiency, etc., maintenance on the marriage is intense and can be complex requiring help of a third party and in those cases the roses and card on the pillow when she wakes is not enough. All marriages require adjustment at some point or another, and if you look at the divorce rate in this country, working on it is really hard to impossible.
2007-03-25 18:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by missionaryplus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't, and I tell people that constantly.
All it takes is some love, some comittment, and some compromise. You're either the kind of person that can live harmoniously with someone or you're not.
Doing kind and loving things for each other is what it's all about, isn't it?
PS - and to those who posted negative comments, we've been happily married 36 years. We count ourselves as "lucky" that we found each other, be we also realize that most relationships don't have to go down the drain if the people just tried a little harder. It ain't rocket science, folks...
2007-03-25 19:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 26 years and I never ask for a darn thing I think it is my up bringing, but my husband does surprise me at times with gifts I like that. Keep up the good work there are very few men like you and my husband. She is a very lucky women I know I am.
2007-03-25 18:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What was your brothers address again? no jk.. Yeah my husband is alot like you, great man, we have that 1 in a million marriage, I dont seem to have to ask for anything, cause I think it and its there.. You are a good man, and keep up what you are doing.... Marriage is not to hard at all, you just have to stay in love and continue to be the person you were when they met you...
2007-03-25 18:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be newlyweds.
Come back in 10 years after a few kids and some late mortgage payments. Then ask the same question.
Marriage can sometimes be work. If you're only interested in the romance, you won't make it through the tough parts.
Here's hoping there's more romance than tough going for you two.
Good luck!
2007-03-25 18:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Biff 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should make her a special day. Make sure she has a day off and run her a bubble bath, make her a nice dinner, and just spoil her. Treating and pampering a woman shows that you care enough to take time out to appreciate how wonderful she is.
2007-03-25 18:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by Soren Lorenson 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is a very lucky lady there are not many guys like you around, if there were there would be fewer divorces. You have found the secret to a happy marriage. Good luck
2007-03-25 18:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do the same for my boyfriend. I love buying him stuff and giving him lots of compliments. I know he loves it, so I love it, too.
Your wife sounds sweet, like you. Keep loving and respecting each other and you will last forever
2007-03-25 18:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by Caramel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good to be conscious that you didn't take your wife or marriage for granted. Showering her with gifts such as flowers occassionally speaks volume. Relationship needs to be worked on and never be taken for granted. Good job!
2007-03-25 18:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your wife sounds satisfied , but flowers when she is not expecting it is nice
the odd unexpected text to tell her you love her
a surprise dinner date
or movie
good luck
2007-03-25 18:13:23 · answer #11 · answered by Byte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋