QUESTION FOR LAWYERS: Can I sue a girl who's pregnant from giving up MY baby to a homosexual couple?

Question

I already asked this in the pregnancy section but did not get any good responses...

I didn't wear a condom one time that I had a lapse in judgement and hooked up with another college student. Unfortunately she became pregnant. While I am against abortion because it's against Christ's teachings (even though she's not a Christian), we both decided that adoption was the best option.

However, I just found out that she plans to give up MY baby to a GAY COUPLE that she selected at the adoption agency! I don't want my child to be homosexual or think it's an acceptable lifestyle so what's the best way to avoid having this happen? I have talked to her and she doesn't seem to think it's a problem.

She already had me give up the parental rights though, after we decided on adoption BUT before she selected the gay couple...so is there any recourse? I wanted the parents to be Christians. Can I take her to court over this? My parents are very wealthy and hiring a good lawyer should be no problem.

I didn't feel like going to the adoption agency with her and I signed the papers via fax.

Answer 1

You should take responsibility for the baby if you dislike her option in who she is giving it to. If you're the legal father by a DNA or paternity action then you should proceed in going to court and getting custody of the child.

Answer 2

I am not a lawyer but if you already gave up your parental rights then you have no say in the matter.
I would like to know why you think a gay couple can not raise a child. I think that a child will get just as much if not more love in that home than the chances in another "christian" home! Also you think that because your family is wealthy that you can play with peoples lives, how do you know that the couple she has chosen has not already bonded with the baby? Money can't buy love or happiness dude. I am extremely happy the girl was smart enough to get you to give up your parental rights before she found a loving couple for HER child!
I guess you have learned to keep a sock on it or it in your pants from now on!!

Answer 3

Better get an attorney and do so right away. This is a very complicated issue and is going to depend on where you live and the local law on the subject. You will probably have to show there was fraud or some sort of misrepresentation made on the part of the girl when she got you to sign away your rights. But if you simply didn't ask or specify who the kid would go to and now you are upset because they are gay you probably wont get far. Your own person feelings aside, the law does not take the position that a gay adoption is inherently dangerous to a child so you wont win on that. Imagine if you went to the court and said you wanted to stop the adoption because the couple was black, the court wouldn't listen to you and are not likely to because they are gay. But I strongly urge you to get an attorney and discuss this matter as soon as tomorrow, you must ask quickly if you are to preserve any rights you may have.

Answer 4

First, you need to see if your state will permit you to revoke the consent to adoption. Some states permit it for the father prior to the birth of the child. Most, if not all, states require that the mother's consent be obtained after the birth of the child, giving the mother a chance to change her mind.
However, unless you are prepared to be the child's father, this is not a step you want to take. A court will possibly refuse to allow revocation based not on your desire to raise the child yourself, but your contempt for the lifestyle of the prospective adoptive parents.
By the way, homosexuality is not learned behavior. Your child will not become homosexual by being raised by a gay couple.
Lastly, if your parents are so wealthy that hiring a lawyer would be no problem, why are you requesting advice on Yahoo answers?

Answer 5

Gay parents don't raise gay children.
There is no difference between the "gay" lifestyle and the "straight" lifestyle.

Long story short.

Taking her to court over all of this would be a waste of time and money and it would be just plain wrong to do so. You didn't want the child, now you are complaining who is adopting the kid. You already gave up your parental rights, so there is nothing you can do. How do you know the gay couple aren't Christian anyway?

Answer 6

You believe in Christ's teachings and yet you impregnated a girl outside of marriage who now wants to give the child to a loving couple to raise. The child will most likely not grow up homosexual unless the DNA is in your and the girl's gene pool. I know several gay people who are also (better) Christians than you clearly are, pal.

Personal feelings aside however, yes, you might be able to stop the adoption with a reputable lawyer who specializes in family and adoption cases.

Answer 7

It sure sounds like you were in a hurry to sign those adoption papers . . . Would you rather the child goes to a heterosexual couple that beats the child (spare the rod, spoil the child).

She went through the pregnancy. She went through morning sickness, no dating, no partying, only eating certain foods, for the sake of the baby ... She was dog tired and having to face final exams ... Or she gave up a semester of college because she was pregnant. She had to tell her employer she couldn't come in because she was sick. She faced the people's looks, she confronted her parents on this, she met the couple and decided...

Where were you?

You weren't even at the adoption agency with her to make these choices ... You didn't "feel like it".

If you were so concerned about this child, you would have filed for custody on the spot, and worked it out with her. Maybe even marry her, like a good christian gentleman would, with no second thoughts.

So far nobody has bonded with this child like the mother has, and young man, it sure seems to me like you aren't ready to make any real sacrifices, step up to the plate and be a father.

Leave her alone, in her choice, that she clearly came to on her own.

Also, this was only one lapse of judgement on her part? And one on yours? She could have had several lapses of judgement --- (How do you know you are the real father) ... Has she pushed you away?

Finally, you file for custody and get it. You take a DNA test ... Are you prepared to provide for it if it is not your biological child?

... Rethink some of the consequences of your 'concerns'. Don't planning on using Daddy's money (if what you say is even true) to bully the poor girl in court. That is as low as you get.

Shut this chapter of your life-story, and move on my friend.

Answer 8

You bigotry is telling. This is not about the baby this is about your tiny little ego.
You faxed in a copy of your signature giving up parental rights because you could not be bothered to take your sorry a*s to the adoption agency. You behaviour indicated that you wanted nothing to do with the process. So shut up!!! All you are is a sperm donor. Nothing more. Biology does not make a parent.
So now with all of your bluster, you want to talk about your parents' money as if that somehow imbues you with anything. Your parents money does not enhance your qualities anymore than sunlight can sweeten trash.
You chose to sleep with a girl outside of marriage, yet you trumpet Christian values. You are a hypocrite. You've trotted out "Christian Values" only as a convenience now.
Gay couples have shown that they can be more stable than some of your so called Christians who have exhibited higher divorce rates that secular people.
Being gay is not a contagious disease. No one can be raised to "turn" gay. If it was only one important thing that a gay household would teach a child is to be tolerant of others unlike you the so called "Christian"
You seemed to have forgotten one of Jesus' most important teachings " Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself" (Matthew 19:19/ Matthew 22:39). Your level of hatred of gays mirrors your own self hatred.

Answer 9

No.

Unless you are listed on the birth certificate as the father, or have been ruled by the court as a father based on paternity test, you have no legal rights.

If you are listed or adjudicated as the father, then you can oppose the adoption by anyone else. You just have to convice a court to award custody to you. The fact that you don't like the people who are adopting the child is not relevant.

But if, as you say, you've already surrendered your legal rights, then you have no say in the matter whatsoever.

Answer 10

First of all, a fax signature is legal. Second, you gave up all rights to your baby because you didn't want the responsibility to take care of it or be tied down by it. Third, who said that a homosexual couple can't be Christian? Fourth, homosexuality is not a choice, nor can you make someone homosexual. So, the baby's sexual orientation is not in danger.

This is not your baby. You are only a sperm donor. So leave the girl alone to make the hardest decision of her life without you putting your two cents inc.

Answer 11

Considering that you already gave up parental rights, no, I doubt you have any say in the matter. (Not that an unwed father has much say anyway)

As a Christian, I'm mildly curious why you're against abortion (which you say is against Christ's teachings) but ignore the parts of the bible that say that
1) you shouldn't have sex outside of marriage
2) you shouldn't hook up with a non-Christian

And, homosexuality is genetic - you can't "catch" it. If I had a kid and had to give him up, I'd rather he go to a loving gay couple than not have a family.