Low self-esteem, quick fix?

Question

I have low self esteem (duh), anyhow im 17 and have a only a few close friends. I have never had a girlfriend, and i rarely to to girls at all.

I want a girlfriend and a quick fix to low self esteem; suggestions?

Answer 1

This is a normal problem for people your age, its not just you. Make a list of everything you like about yourself- looks, personality, abilities- and then focus on what you would like to change. Take this one day at a time, a bit at a time. One good thing I have done lately is I make myself talk to people more. If you're standing in the lunch line, why not start a conversation with someone? Something as easy as " Nice shirt" is a good starting point. Some people just dont want to talk, but talk to one new person a day (especially a girl) and you'll get a response eventually. FYI: Girls love compliments!

Girls arent going to like you until you like yourself! Good luck.

Answer 2

Buy new clothes.
Take up a new hobby.
Join a club at school.

The first suggestion is by far the weakest of these quick fixes, but it does help if you're serious about creating a new self-image.
The other two may take a bit longer to settle into, but they will definitely help make you a more interesting person in the long run even if they don't necessarily give you the desired results.

Besides, there'll be plenty of time for girls when you get older.

Answer 3

Self esteem is enhanced through accomplishment. Find something you enjoy doing and work at it. The self esteem will follow.
As for a girlfriend, Have you loked at all the questions on here that say "does he like me?" I suggest approaching a girl you have an interest in, and telling her you find her interesting and can we go out? They will appreciate not having to play the waiting/ guessing games. The worst that can happen is they say no, and you won't be any worse off.

Answer 4

sorry, there is no quick fix to boosting self esteem.
there are things that you can do in a day that will help to improve your self esteem and make you feel better for the time being. but long term self esteem can only be achieved by carrying these things out regularly, changing the way you think of yourself.
you might have to be willing to think cheesy though.

here are some ideas:

exercise regularly - exercise releases endorphins, which make a person feel good.

respect yourself- make healthy choices (ie abstain) from binge-drinking, drugs, etc. these things will only make you feel worse, and they are worse for you.

think positive- if you think of yourself poorly, you will think poorly of yourself. this will come across to others. vice versa rings true.

of course no quick answer will give you self esteem, but it will come. once you build your self confidence, trust me, you will have a girlfriend. it is just something that takes time.

Answer 5

If you want everything quick and fast, go kill someone and take their identity.

But if you want to stay on the good side of the law, the only way to build your self-esteem up is by doing something your good at. Be it sports, music, hell, even breakdancing, just join a group and do it. I used to be closed up and fearful of others, but then I found a different perspective on life. That you can control yourself. Anything you do, you contro what you do. If you feel pain, its fake, only your body bitching. Don't let others put you down, because you can be as good or powerful as they are. You are the master of your mind, nothing controls you but yourself, not your emotions or fears.

Answer 6

Sadly, wanting a girlfriend won't get you one. They don't fall out of the sky. Why don't you talk to girls, are they silly? It's okay to have different interests. I would say start focusing on what interests you. If you don't talk to girls, it is probably that they don't interest you. Don't beat yourself up about it, move on. If you find an interest and stick with it, most likely things will change.

Answer 7

Volunteer for some type of school event and put in the work. You'll feel better about yourself and probably meet a few girls.

Answer 8

Take up something like salsa dancing, regular exercise makes you feel better and dancing clubs are full of ladies & few men.