I've been dating my bf for almost 2 years. I moved in with him because I had no where to go. I've been living with him for about 6 months. In the past, he's cheated on me a couple times. I've forgiving him for it but its still there, and hes fine with that. he knows he was wrong. He was always a cheater his whole life but he stopped to be just with me. and thats the truth, i know. Lately I've been feeling that I don't want to be around him. He annoys me alot and I snap at him. I've had a bad past year, with my grandmother dieing (she raised me) and it's just hitting me that she's gone. I havent been feeling well, my stomach has been turning and I cant find out why. I have a tooth absest that sometimes hurts, but not often. I dont work (i take care of the house) and I dont drive. so im home alot. He works nights and then comes home. I dont know if its my life that makes me feel bad or if i'm falling out of love with him. I still care about him and love seeing him with my family.
2007-03-25 10:28:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm not going to choose a best answer. Honestly, you all helped one way or another. I think I still love him. I thought about it and dont want to be without him. So I'll try to change my life style and hopefully that will help. Thanks alot everyone!
2007-03-25 11:00:09 · update #1
Doesn't sound like there was ever really any love there...perhaps just a fondness and a "need"
2007-03-25 10:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes you fall out of love becuase the person is always tehre and your bored and there's nothing left to keep things interesting/ he may feel the same way but donest want to let on becuase you two have so much history together.
you need to sit down and talk to him about wehre your relationship is going...you cant jsut sit in the house all day. maybe if you dont stay home all day thinking about htis things will get better. when your upset about somethign doing something productive always helps. it doesnt matter what, just something to occupy your time. this boyfirend cant be the only thing taht your await aroudn for all day wondering if hes even worth waiting aroudn for. you need to find an independnt purpose that doenst involve him and then see what happens from there. maybe you and him can work out your problems, or maybe you wont. if you have something else to lean back on (like a job) then either way youll be okay on your own
hope this hleped!
2007-03-25 17:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by daisy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I think that you are going through is the sad feeling of your grandmother. Since you grew so accustom to her being there for you, you have maybe took your anger out on your boyfriend. Maybe this isn't the guy for you, talk to him and tell you guys heed time apart.
You said that he has cheated on you in the pass, many people feel irritated by their partner after the person has cheated. If you love seeing him around your family the main thing is if you loved being around him alone. Think of questions in your head such as "Can we be together for ever, happy?" "Do we get along since we moved in together?" "Would it be better if we didn't live together?"
These questions should help you. You say that you haven't been feeling well have you tried to go to the doctors? Just because you care about someone doesn't mean you love him. After relationships people still care about each other but don't feel as though they would work out. You could just be friends or stay and work it out.
I hope my advice helped you.
2007-03-25 17:49:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kyla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think u are falling ou love (although u would know if u were) i think it's ur lifestyle. if u don't get out enough n see no one but him u end up in a rut n u feel depressed. n if ur in pain n can't figure out for urself then u should go to ur local GP.
Try doing something for you, learn how do to something u love like play guitar (if i had heaps of spare time that's what i would do)
Good luck sweetie, i know being a stay at hom girlfriend is no fun but lifes all what u make it (corny huh? sorry bout that!!)
2007-03-25 17:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by stevieglenwright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have good insights about your situation I agree with you about changing your lifestyle, perhaps learn new skills get a job take up a new hobby and get out more, turn your life around into a more fulfilling lifestyle. The new you will bring about new and happy feelings about yourself, and god knows what he would see in the new you. Good luck and take care
2007-04-02 08:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a mixture of things. dump him if he cheated on you more than once. how much love can a person have for someone who cheated one time. not to mention he did it more than once. thats just rediculous. and second. fix your tooth get your own job move back home and say bye bye to the cheater. if you arent happy with yourself you cant make anyone else happy...isn't that what they say :)
2007-03-25 17:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by Vin Diesel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your story has nothing to do with him! It has everything to do with YOU! You are sick of YOU! I don't think you are falling out of love. I think you need some spark in your own personal life. Get a job. Learn to drive and get over the loss of your grandmother. She wouldn't want you to be depressed over her death. Rejoice over her life. Also you might want to look into anti-depressants or visit a counselor of some sort.
2007-03-25 17:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the its drawing to a close. Ask yourself if you can imagine being better with or without him. If the 2nd outweighs the other, than you have to realize that love isnt supposed to make your life harder, but easier.
2007-03-25 17:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by Francisco L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u dont feel ok then p;z make a contact with ur doc & take it seriously.
2007-03-25 17:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by Fahim . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you cant stand the site or thought of the person anymore
2007-03-25 17:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by fallenangelhunter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋