been together 13 years our son is almost 12. He has 2 older girls20 and23. there are 4 grandchildren. 2 from each daughter. The 23 year old is the problem. Has been the problem for 11 years. I have beant over backwords to help her and she is getting out of prison on thursday and i haft to give her son back to her this is the 4 th time. She still wants to blame everyone else for her actions, and Ifeel she will never change unless she excepts that ahe is the reason she is the way she is. i DONT WANT HER TO BE AN INTERFERENCE WITH MY FAMILY ANYMORE BUT SEE no other way out but then to leave ,in turn hurting my son the most. what to do.No one cares for my husband much for the way he has treated me. But he is a real hard worker takes care of us. But I have reracently came off anti depressants (8) years, and I just dont feel I need to fight anymore and the only way I see to fix it is leave..
2007-03-25 10:23:08 · 6 answers · asked by lou lou 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been through same kind of situation. Eventually, I left the house since everyone was safe and happy. I wasn't happy and was on anti-depressants a while. Sometimes, for everyone's happiness, it's important for you to get healthy and happy. You have only one life. Just make sure to live your life fully and stay being a good example. I am now in Grad school and doing well at work. I am trying to do the best I can, and my family is very happy seeing me doing better, including my kids. It's tough, but you have to be happy. Good luck.
2007-03-25 10:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a tough row to hoe (as we say here in the south).
Dropping off the antidepressants will definitely take the fight out of anyone. I can understand your lack of enthusiasm for dealing with all these problems. If you were taking antidepressants to deal with these problems; then it is a good thing you are off them now so you can start dealing.
You don't have to bend over backwards anymore for your step daughter. She is an adult. She's welcome to make her own mistakes. It is too bad she has kids and I'm sorry if she had a hard childhood; but the past is past. She's not going to do things your way. She's probably doing to blow it again. That is reality.You are not responsible for her kids unless she gives them up to you.
You say, 'no one cares for my husband much for the way he has treated me' Other people's opinions do not matter. It is your opinion that matters on this issue. If you don't like the treatment he hands out; then talk to him about what you do want. If he isn't willing to make any changes to improve things then by all means, do what you want to do.
2007-03-25 10:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by krinkn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 21:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take care of YOU.
You and your husband have been enabling that 23 year old for how long? Her child needs to be fostered-out.... i'm sure that will happen in the end, anyway... sounds like a mess.
Your son will have to realize that you are unhappy and you have to do what is necessary to take care of you, and live an "emotionally SAFE" life style. You've been depressed (i have been there, hon), and it's time to take care of YOU.
hugz hugz...!
2007-03-25 10:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Should i stay in a home where your son is happy and husband is happy but iam not happy?" First of all what are YOU doing in MY home...second of all I don't have a son...third I don't have a son...and forth why the hell should I care if you're happy in MY home or not?
2007-03-25 18:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coo-coo for Coco Puffs?
2007-03-25 10:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋