GIRLS only?

Question

AM I the only one that puts up with the male ego pride?And how do you deal with it, so you don't lose your own idenity, pride, and self respect??

Answer 1

When my husband gets like that, I just ignore him. It's usually only every once in awhile. I don't like to argue, so to get annoyed by it would only cause more problems. I just let him have his moment of glory and go about my own business. I don't have a problem with him having confidance and showing off his accomplishments, like alot of times he likes to show me how big his muscles have gotten after a work out, and he stands in front of the mirror flexing for like 20 minutes. I do get proud of him for reaching his goals. But when he starts to playfully joke around about how men are stronger than women, and I could never take him in a fight, blah blah blah, I just have to hold my composure from blowing it up into something unnecessary. I usually just make a silly comment like "For all you know, I've been studying kung-fu while you're at work, so lets just see you try something!" One time he taunted me so I kicked him where it counts, but he just proceeded to tackle me and give me a wedgie, so that didn't work too well. I usually just laugh it off and not let it get to me. I think all men are like that to a certain point. Just let him have his little moments of glory. But if it ever turns into where he is deliberately making you feel small and building himself up in the process, and it's happening pretty often, that's a different story. And you should NOT have to sit there and take that. If you are not married to him, I would suggest considering whether or not you really want to be in this relationship, because the point of having a partner is to compliment each other, build each other up, and provide strength where the other has weakness. The same in a marriage. If you are married, I suggest you reveal your true feelings to him about it. If he seems to not take you seriously, then I would consider the same, possibly deciding to move on with your life. You don't need that type of mental abuse, and if he's not willing to change, and you feel that it will begin to affect how you view yourself and your self-worth, you may need to think about separating for awhile until you can decide what you want in a partner.

Answer 2

Pride and ego aren't just limited to men; I've known plenty of women with too much of those things as well. Men are not as complex as they seem to be. The key is to just let them have the freedom to be themselves. A decent man is one who respects women and will give the same freedom. If you lose your identity within a relationship, it is not just the man's fault; it may not be his fault at all. Natural human flaws that become hindrances in a marriage or any other male/female relationship are the fault of both parties involved because without communication, there is no relationship. I think that most importantly, you must be true to who you are and what your morals, beliefs, and standards are for people in general.

I put up with the "typical" male behavior of the men I know because they are all men that I know very well personally, and men are just...the way they are. Underneath all of the typical behavior, they are just people. It saddens me that so many women these days seem to be male-bashers. They just don't understand men.

Answer 3

No, you most certainly are not the only one that puts up with it. Guys are definitely cocky and they have HUGE egos...it gets really annoying at times, especially in competition. Guys think they have to beat all the girls, or else they aren't "manly". I run varsity track, and some of these JV guys think they're so fast, and I always like to bust their egos when I pass them. That's basically how I deal with male egos...I show them I'm better. Yes, that's right, a GIRL is better, faster, smarter, whatever...lol. :)

Answer 4

Sarcasm!!!

It can be double sided like he says wow look how big my abs are you can say yup they are so big and sexy what did you do !!!
that will make them think because if you don't know yet men are just a self consciences as women, even more then us and they will think its a compliment and just a little bit of sarcasm so even if his abs are huge and nice and you like them but are tired of putting up with him you can say something nice with a twist of sarcasim so you own pride and idenity and self respect aren't lost

Answer 5

No, you are not the only one, I had to stand so much male pride that I felt like bursting...They are so full of themselves and so very shallow...It is really hard to deal with it...One thing I know for sure..."i would rather be alone than unhappy"...

Answer 6

no,no you are definitely not the only one sister. i deal with those males everyday. it is not an easy thing, to stay level headed and keep calm. but i have to. the way to not lose your identity, pride and self respect is to simply to refer to the old saying 'i you can't beat 'em join 'em.' I'm not saying you have to be exactly like them just give them a taste of their own medicine or just ignore them or if you really can't deal with them then just try to talk to them and get them to understand your point of view. i hope i helped

Answer 7

You have to ask yourself what you saw in us in the first place?Guys are guys, some good some bad,still guys.As for your identity and self respect , that's yours . We can't take that from you , Some might try to take that from you but do you really want to be with someone like that, or had you rather be on a snow white beach where the water is turquoise?

Answer 8

As long as "putting up with it" doesn't involve anything that makes you feel guilty, bad about yourself, or less of a woman, you're okay. If you are experiencing theses feelings, however, then it's time for you to "draw the line". Door mats get very little respect.

Answer 9

Male ego pride, LOL, i try to ignore it when I feel it. If men cant show me that I'm equal to them and that my opinion counts, then I dont deal with them at all or at least in a subtle way I make them feel that I'm worth listening to if they happened to be one of my supervisors. (Lucky I dont have a male supervisor right now)

Answer 10

In the first place IGNORE them completly,let them live/wander in their own ego world.Don't mess with them & they will co-exist happily with you just like ever. They just need ego massage once in blue moon (not a mandatory ptractise to follow). Like the fingers of our palm, not all male are similar.There are also some,who are victims their FRATERNITY's ego..........