How do I loosen up?

Question

In social situations I feel like I'm really quiet, which is not who I really am. How do I loosen up a bit so I act like the person I am when I'm just with a couple friends or my family?

Answer 1

Here I go, answering a question with a question. You say: "I feel like I'm really quiet, WHICH IS NOT WHO I REALLY AM."
(My caps.) There "seems" some kind of contradiction here. In what situations, (if any), do you feel you're being "who you are?" I wonder if there's a pattern you can find, where you behave NOT as you really are. This is a difficult question without further information. All I can see here, is that being who one is, shouldn't require "loosening up." I speculate there's more to this than your question provided. I'd really like to help, but it's impossible. You can email me, if you like.

Answer 2

First, do not take yourself too seriously. Everyone does not have to be your fiend and those people who become your friend should become friends with the real YOU, and not someone else. Some people think everything is so important. You miss too much with that attitude. Be like the stream, moving through life and touching all the shores; not like the stick in the mud fighting against the movement of the water. Not everyone will remember you, but be good to the people who do, they are your friends. Be good to everyone, even those who do not seem to like you; people will see the good you and those who still don't like you will only be jealous, but not vengeful. By giving and through kindness you dissipate karma, while collecting karma only weights you down. Part of karma are the worries of life.
Also remember, God gave us two ears and one mouth to tell us that we should listen twice as much as we speak. As an aside, when I went to parties when I was younger I was always amazed by the good opinion people had formed of me, even though I had said little, but I listened a lot. Don't force yourself to be the life of the party, you can enjoy just standing back and looking and listening. Just laugh at the appropriate time!

Answer 3

Take a deep breath and become an actress and that way it will give you the edge to loosen up

Answer 4

stop thinking about what they think about you and think about what there talking about see this is a form of self absorption and i am not trying to sound cold or cal-us but it is your thinking and emotions that have you locked in counter acting your self esteem and persuadeing you that ideas and thoughts are nothing you need more positive reinforcement from yourself search for your goodness inside and laugh at your self.

Answer 5

Just remember to stay relaxed, that's the most important thing.

Answer 6

Take a hit.