I was raped a number of times as a kid and I know it wasn't my fault, but I can't seem to break free of the hurt of the pass mistakes I've made with other guys by being easy. I'm jobless right now because I wanted a career change but I don't even have the self esteem anymore to believe in myself, I'm dieing here.
2007-03-25 10:01:16 · 6 answers · asked by nnn_iii_ttt 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Hi kiddo,
Listen, it's very common for girls who were sexually abused at a young age to become "easy", as you put it, when they get into their teens and beyond. The reason is that they were often made to feel as though they had no other value than as an object. In essence, you were programmed to be that way by your abuser(s). Read on...
Someone very near and dear to me went through terrible abuse as a little girl. As she got into her teens, she just did what she was "programmed" to do. She had no self-esteem, so she felt the only way a guy would like her was to, you know. She became very self-destructive, drinking excessively, and doing drugs. She allowed herself to get into some very bad situations, and was further abused/assaulted several other times. All this before the age of 18.
Over the years, she went through a lot of struggles over her past. She eventually got counseling. She learned that she wasn't responsible for what happened to her, as well as why she acted out like she did. Today, she is a very happy, loving wife and mother. She's been able to put the past behind her, and move on with her life.
The point is, you can and will overcome the demons in your past. You're not alone. Please get in to see a counselor ASAP. He/she can help you deal with the problems you're having, so you can move froward with your life. You deserve a happy life, never forget that.
There are many free services available if money is an issue.
By the way, you already took the first step by reaching out for help-way to go! Now keep going. I believe in you. CS
2007-03-25 19:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Chris S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about the pain and trouble in your life right now. It might help your state of mind to find a support group for people who were molested as a child. You could try going to, or going back to, school. Now that you're older and more experienced, you should be able to avoid the mistakes that many young people make. You're not the first woman to make the mistakes you did. You can make a good future for yourself. It will take hard work and you'll have to avoid doing the same things that you did in the past. You can do it.
2007-03-25 17:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by St. Toad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're in pain and wanting help but don't quite know how to get there. There are many organizations available to help you - I'm not sure what country you're in but there are normally listings in the telephone directory.
When I had to resolve some issues from my past, I went to counselling. At first, I though it was giving up but it's actually a pro-active way to heal. S/he will be able to help you through your past trauma and work with you to build yourself again. This healing will help you eventually see the amazing person you are.
Good luck and my thoughts will be with you.
2007-03-25 17:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by Halli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not to blame. Stop punishing your self. Change your attitude toward yourself and your life will change for the better.
2007-03-25 17:10:22 · answer #4 · answered by liberty11235 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As crazy as it sounds, I think the key to your future is letting go of your past. You must truly forgive those who harmed you. Whether it is to their face or in the privacy of your own mind, you must forgive in order to move forward.
2007-03-25 17:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry, you poor thing. Get some counseling for yourself.
2007-03-25 17:09:42 · answer #6 · answered by sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋