People that know me, would describe me as a nervous, shy quiet timid woman..who's seems wierd at first appearance...and the problem that I'm having is I notice that people ..meaning strangers and even some of my so-called friends use it as a weakness against me...for example I met up with some old childhood friends yesterrday..keep in mind we're all in our mid 20's and they were just kept making fun of the fact that I was nervous and shy... and how they couldn't wait until we went out that night so they can see how I interact with men..because they think I would run and hide my face...and they went on to say they couldn't see me having sex..because I seem stiff..and wouldn't really be engaging..the whole thing was really embarassing because these friends of mine..really think I am the same,...and I want to know how can I become more agressive so that people won't be able to use my conservativness as a weakness as being a push over and weak...any suggestions..
2007-03-25 09:48:02 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Plus these same friends who I'm referring too that kept making fun of the fact that I 'm nervous...kept saying I think I 'm too cute.."She thinks she's too cute" so that in itself made me feel like I had to make myself seem lower because I didn't want them to think that I was being something else..and I did this by lowering my head...not saying much,..stuff like that...
2007-03-25 09:54:25 · update #1
Well as soon as they started saying that crap u should of stopped it...Speak out...
2007-03-25 09:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you do not have to prove to them that you are someone you are not, if they are your TRUE Friends then they would not be making you feel as if you have to change. Do you tell them hey I can see you having sex because you just seem like the type who has been out there??, sometimes people do things for so long that they are not even aware of what they are saying and the impact that it has one another person. I would speak up and let them know that the person that you once knew grew up but I still have a lot of my old qualities and if you do not like it I guess you do not like me!! Remember people only do what you allow them to do. Also, even if you speak up they might not even take you serious because of the way that they see you, so be firm in what you say and practice what you preach no sense in saying something to get people to respect you and then going back to your old self.
2007-03-25 18:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋