knowing he has a wonderful wife, two children ...and that if it wasn't u ,it was some other girl...what would u do?
2007-03-25 09:45:11 · 21 answers · asked by irene d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I made the mistake of doing it. Mine's (ex-estranged) wife moved 4000+ miles away to England. He still left all her pictures up (still after 4 yrs) and she comes about every 4-6 months and they have sex and go on a lilttle holiday and when she leaves he would always come running back to me. I ONLY dated him because she left and that I have not fallen for anyone like him in 12 yrs. I now have a 6 month old with him and it makes it even harder, because he won't claim her because of his "wife" They don't want each other but the two jerks don't want to divorce, go figure that stuipd **** out. NOOOOO never again. I was a HUGH fool for this piece of **** and it is true "They DON'T leave their wives" Find someone NOT married.
2007-03-25 12:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by 3000gthottie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got some instincts about this already...or you wouldn't be asking...
I know there is a strong pull--a sexual attraction to the forbidden--there always is. However there are so many risks.
1. Ethically and morally this would be something that you would have to live with for the rest of your life.
2. He is not going to leave her for you--no matter what. So don't do it for that reason--even if he does leave her--odds are high statistically he won't stay with you.
3. Would you want it done to you?
4. It will get emotionally messy and make it difficult to find a mate that deserves you. It is hard for you to move on and find a boyfriend when you are doing him...
5. He does not deserve you. You are better than that. He looks like a provider, like he has a solid foundation and his act together--but he will not leave her for you. Statistically the odds are against it.
6. After sleeping with you--he will go home and do his wife...He is ying if he says he does not.
He doesn't want a replacement--he just wants different. Do you really just want to be a f*** buddy?
2007-03-25 16:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by Missy Lyons 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to be involved in a situation like that. A man who cheats on his family is a liar. If he will lie to his own wife and kids he will lie to you too. What makes you think he's not already cheating on his wife with you and some other girl? He shouldn't be married if he still wants to date? He sounds like a slob. You'll be disappointed in the end. Just like his wife.
2007-03-25 16:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! Run away!! This guy is a jerk. Any man with a wife and two kids who is picking up girls is someone you do not want to be involved with. If he cheats on his wife and mother of his children, he will cheat on you and break your heart too.
2007-03-25 16:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by krinkn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't do it. all that leads to is a lot of hurt people and I am not talking about you. I am sure there are many men that you can out out with why try to walk in to someones life. Get your own, would you wont to be the wonderful wife with 2 kids and have your husband step out on you?????? Everything we do in life comes back so why mess up what your life could be. Let her find out what a prick her husband is with out you there. Have some pride in knowing you did not help break 3 hearts that are not yours to break!!
2007-03-25 16:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by samantha_g_smith 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would find a man that is single. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Imagine if you were one of those kids finding out that your dad was cheating on your mom with some lady that you didn't even know. Do not date a married man no matter how their marrige is working out. It is none of your business.
2007-03-25 16:50:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heaven's no! Unless he's yours, he's still hers. There are wonderful single men out there, value yourself enough to go and find one. Don't be THAT girl...find someone else to take you out, someone you don't have to sneak around with, what an aweful man to be doing this to his wonderful wife and unsuspecting children. If this husband stealer isn't yourself, tell your girlfriend to stay away...with a capital...STAY AWAY!!!
2007-03-25 16:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did once, a long time ago. I wouldn't recommend it. You would be destroying a family for physical pleasure. And, if you aren't careful, and the wife finds out, you could end up hurt, or worse.
2007-03-25 16:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i may not have a lot, but i do have respect for other people's marriages.
and i have enough dignity and honor to know not to touch or even look at other people's spouses.
and i have enough brains to know "that if it isn't me it will be some other girl" means he is a total a$$hole whose only concern is himself.
and i also have enough brains to know if he doesn't honor the commitment he made to his wife, he'll never honor any commitment and he sure doesn't deserve her or me!
and i also have enough street smarts not to believe any of the stupid line married men come up with. if its so horrible at home, they should leave. once they have left and are legally separated, they can start looking around.
to my way of thinking anyone screwing around with a married man is a slutty piece of garbage who has no respect for anything or anyone. plain and simple.
so ............... are you still going ahead with it?
2007-03-25 16:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Heavens NO. I would not. My sister did (is) and I told her nothing will change the fact that she is my sister and i love her, but what she is doing is wrong. The man does not have children, but it is still very very wrong. There are plenty of men who are not married! Get your own!
2007-03-25 16:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by sandibum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋