Are Stay at home mom's overratted?

Question

I might take some flack for this one, but I am curious to know what people think. Does anyone think that women make it seem harder than it is to get respect from their husband? Do you think a lot of time spent by stay at home mom's is spent relaxing, shopping, etc?

Answer 1

My wife is a stay at home mom, and she cooks & cleans, takes care of the kids while I'm at work, and I have nothing but respect for her because she's a stay at home mom. Being a stay at home mom isn't as easy as people think.

Hey Kate, if you think Stay At Home Mom's are overratted, then don't get married and have kids, because kids love having parents who are involved in their lives. I know my kids love it that mom is home with them.

Answer 2

A Mom is a 24/7/365 job whether she works outside the home or stays at home. At the risk of getting flack for my answer. A Mom is the most demanding job in the world. She is "on call" at all times. Why would a woman make it seem harder than it is to "get respect from her husband"? He should already respect her just for who she is or why would he marry her in the first place? Relaxing, sure, watching Sesame Street while changing dirty diapers, doing laundry, cooking, cleaning, paying the bills, chasing a toddler all over the house, the list is endless. These tasks are mostly done simultaneously. The shopping, oh yes, Mom's shop or no one eats and no one has clothes to wear.

I raised 6 kids, including twins. I had 3 kids in diapers at the same time. I was not a stay at home Mom. I worked 60 hour weeks outside my home, (not by choice). I still did all the work at home as do a majority of working Moms.

Even if I didn't work outside the home, I had a more than full-time job.

I would say if you are truly curious about what Moms do, then you try it for a week.

Studies have shown that children raised in a home where the Mom is able and willing to stay home are more stable and successful in all aspects of life.

Whether a Mom stays at home or works outside the home is a personal choice and should be respected either way.

Answer 3

I have been a stay-at-home mom for 10 years. I wake up at 4:00 am to start work (I work from home). I then homeschool my two older children (6,7). In the process I clean and cook. I have dinner ready every night at 6:00. I also spend time playing with my toddler. I am the one that does the grocery shopping and writes out the bills every month. I am the one that takes the children to all of their extracurricular activities. I am the head of my daughter's Liberty Girls Club and my sons Science Club. After I get the children put to bed I either finish up my work, clean house, exercise, or study (I am earning my degree on-line). I do not spend time relaxing. I barely have time to squeeze in a 15 minute shower every morning. It is very hard to get everything done. Sometimes I feel like there are not enough hours in the day. I often feed the kids breakfast and lunch and I skip out on it so that I can get things done. I have to add that I would not change it for the world. I love being home with my children. They are what keeps me going.

Answer 4

From a brief stint as a stay at home mom, I am telling you that, no it isn't easy. I stayed home with my daughter for about 6 months. I didn't hate it, but I couldn't handle it either. I spent my day taking care of her, the house and running errands. Adult conversation was pretty much null. The only thing I miss was the payment. While I wasn't paid in money, I lived for the kisses and cuddling my daughter loves so much. I run a busy restaurant as my "job" now and as stressful as that gets, its a piece of cake compared to staying home and raising a family all day every day. My husband is currently unemployed and he agrees that being a stay at home dad is harder than punching a clock. Although he is a lot better at it than I was. He has all of the cleaning, ironing and cooking done when I get home. I was always behind on my chores and in need of a shower...lol. Amen to all the men and women who can hack it, I sure couldn't!

Answer 5

I was a stay at home mom and I would not trade it for the world. As far as the stay at home mom shopping and relaxing all day, it wasn't true in my case. I kept an immaculate house, had dinner on the table every night [ and everything was home made], plus I was very active in my children's school. There were times that I had more freedom to do things that I wanted to do and I don't in anyway apologize for that. Besides, it was beneficial for my husband who worked very long hours building up his own company to have me not work. He never had to worry about the kids because he knew I was home and whenever they or him needed me, I was there. There's nothing like peace of mind.

Answer 6

Stay at home moms are the women I think deserve the most respect. They have chosen to give up any career dreams they had in order to take care of their children, hubby and home full time. And when I say full time, that's what I mean. I don't know many moms who have much time for themselves for things like relaxing and watching tv, unless they do it when their children are napping. And, since I was not a stay at home mom, and I still have that much respect for them, you can be certain they are all that - and more.

Answer 7

No. It is very draining. I didn't even want to shop because it was such a pain taking them to stores. Its a lot of work that has many joys, but it is not easy. in fact on my 3rd child, by the time he was 2 and my others were 4&6...I had to get a part time night job, just to get a break. I worked to get a break from work...if that makes any sence. My husband would come home from work and I would walk out the door to go to work. 2/3 days a week 4-5 hours a night (waiting tables)
It was a nice break.

Answer 8

I've been a stay at home mom and a working mom, and I can tell you it's not easy. When I was at home I literally spent every waking moment either taking care of the kids or taking care of the house. it is possible to make it easy - goofing off, watching tv, etc. But if you want a halfway decent looking house and kids that aren't brats, it takes a LOT of work and a LOT of patience.

Answer 9

Absoultely NOT!!!

Being a stay at home mom is the most demanding job anyone could have - you don't get paid, and you don't get a break.

Imagine being "on-call" for everything your children, husband, and household need -

cooking
cleaning house
washing dishes
doing laundry constantly
uncloging toilets
paying bills
playing with kids
drive kids everywhere they need to be
taking care of them when they are sick
taking them to the dr, and to get prescriptions filled
going to the grocery store for any and everything whenever it is needed
mending clothes (sewing on buttons, mending socks)
helping with homework
helping with school projects and papers
volunteering at the school
making your kids lunches
taking them shopping for clothes when they all of a sudden outgrow everything they have
changing beds (especially fun when someone has vomited in it)
taking kids to dentist for cleanings
taking kids to get hair cuts
taking kids to ballet or ball practice or whatever activity
making sure they have the uniform or shoes for whatever activity
attending programs at school (PTA, etc)
coordinating activities with friends
taking the whole group to church (which involves getting everyone dressed and getting there on time)
taking care of family pets (buying the food, feeding the pet, taking it to the vet when it gets sick)


Youy question is absurd. Get a clue. If there is any relaxing involved, I'd sure like to hear about it.

Answer 10

There's one way to find out. Trade places for 10 hours with a stay at home mom. I've been both staying at home is much harder and with people like you they get no respect.