We were married for 4 years, and we've been apart now for 2. We have two young children together, and he has custody of his son from a previous relationship. There was never any abuse or violence. I think our 2 biggest issues were parenting and family interference. Obviously, we still have to parent together. We've been seeing each other again for about 4 months, sleeping together, he even spends the night sometimes. He says he never stopped loving me. Do you think we can work this out? How?
2007-03-25 09:19:59 · 16 answers · asked by cilsavon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES, DEFINITELY! Since u mentioned there's no abuse or violence, both of u just need to sort out your differences to be together again. Most importantly, both of you must still have strong feelings for each other.
In my opinion, i think the divorce could be made in a hasty decision and perhaps at that time both of u were still immature to handle the relationship. Well, it will be great to see both of you together again and most important of all, YOUR CHILDREN will benefit from this too!
2007-03-25 09:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to work it out and be back together. I know a couple and I didn't even know that they had been married to each other before, then they divorced, after a while they realized that they loved each other and wanted to be together. So they got married again and I don't think that either one of them regret it. Do you truly want to be with this person? That is the real question, and do you think that after being away from each other for awhile that now you have both grown a little more, enough so that you will be able to work out your problems? If you can answer yes to that then you need to go for it. Try not to let other people interfering get in the way, even if it is family that is one of the quickest ways to ruin any relationship. As for the parenting issues that is something that the two of you will have to talk about and hopefully you can find a halfway point that you ar both happy with. YES it is possible to end up back together. Best of luck.
2007-03-25 16:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by vixenangel_ia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you will, but honestly, it is unlikely.
My ex and I were married 4 years. Never any violence, but she cheated on me on several occassions. Despite her pleas of never doing that again, she always did. Her past became her present and she could not, or would not, stop. Once, we were apart for only two hours and she slept with a guy she had just met-- didn't even know his name.
Your situation could work, but, all of the past has to be forgiven and set aside-- entirely. I have no doubt he still loves you, but how do you feel deep inside?? Are you two getting together for sexual purposes only?? Do you spend quality time together? Weigh all the facts.
What about family interference? How are you going to handle that? What is the compromise of parenting?
Whatever you decide, tread lightly. The chance is very high for another heartache. Good luck.
2007-03-25 16:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by michael p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Anything can be worked out if both parties want to. Just sit down with him some day when the kids are gone and you don't have any distractions, and talk about what you both want. Don't let your family interfere with your relationship choices... they're your choices. Just get an idea of what you both want to get out of life, and then decide if you both want to get back together. There's nothing wrong with giving it a shot.
2007-03-25 16:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by Wildernessguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends of the couple involved. My wife and I were married about 11 years, then had some communication issues, got divorced for about 6 months. We started to talk again, resolved our issues, and have been remarried now about 2 years. Good luck!
2007-03-25 16:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by quagi m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. I've heard of it happening before, where a couple got divorced and then remarried. That the time apart helped. But just remember, if you do get remarried, just sit down and talk to resolve conflicts that arise in the marriage. I think there's still love there, and it shows with your comments.
I wish you both the best.
2007-03-25 16:31:44 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definatlely think you can work it out! You obviously still love each other and you have the bond of forever with children..
I think communication is going to have to be a huge thing with the two of you..If you can talk everything out, everything will be ok..Just don't forget to communicate:)
2007-03-25 16:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely u can work this out, with alot of communication, honesty, and love. so now that u know what caused the breakup, fix it, don't allow it to interfere again, meet one another half way, and never go to bed angry. good luck
2007-03-25 16:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. but make sure this is what you want because you could end up like my situation.once you let them back in you might not be able to get rid of them and they just can't take a hint no matter what you say or do to discourge them into leaving you for good.(best wish).
2007-03-25 16:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by TRUE OR NOT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going through the same thing, we have lived back together for about 4 months now.......it takes work but it can be done if you really love each other
2007-03-25 16:35:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋