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My mother and I are planning an intervention for my sister who is 14 and claiming to be a lesbian. We acknowledge that she is out of her mind and want to actually get her committed to an institution to get help. We just found out last night and have no idea where to start.

2007-03-25 09:09:38 · 41 answers · asked by NormalOne 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Adolescent

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Get her into a christian-based treatment center. They're the only ones who fully acknowledge this behavoir as abhorrent. Good luck and God Bless.

2007-03-25 11:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3 13

Let's put the Lesbian complaint aside. More than likely the lesbian tendencies are not the real problem. You need to be more focused on the harmful behavior. Because as of right now you are going to make things worse by focusing on her sexuality. Try therapy and family therapy it sounds as if she really wants to make a statement or go beyond to really upset you guys.

Right now she is too young to be concerned about sex in any form.

Try not to judge her she will use it like fuel make the situation worse.Talk to a therapist that shares views of sexuality with you. IT should not be a problem.

And you know what you do not have to accept lesbian and homosexual behavior that is YOUR Right. Just make sure you do not go out of your way to make her feel uncomfortable about her sexuality. Ultimately she will judge herself and she really does not need you guys making it worse.

2007-03-25 09:54:03 · answer #2 · answered by withoutaname 2 · 1 1

What The F*ck......Shes Not F*cking Crazy.......You And Your Mother Are For Not Accepting That She Is What She Is......Lesbians And Gay People Are The Best........And If Shes Crazy Then That Means 1/4 Of The World Is Crazy Too.......Why The F*ck Do You Have To Be So Racist!!!!!!!

2007-03-25 10:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anna Babe 1 · 1 1

You want your 14yo to be institutionalized because she says shes a lesbian? I thought parents were suppose to love there children unconditionally. I just told my daughter that last night. I am not a lesbian, but I did have sex with my best girlfriend. I still preferr my husband who is aware of our encounter. There is nothing wrong with being a lesbian. Even thought I am happily married, I still find woman attractive. There is nothing you can do except brake her heart for you and your mothers actions. She will hate you for it. Let her be.

2007-03-25 10:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

No "institution" would accept your sister just because you and her family can't accept her homosexuality. Whether she really is a lesbian or not is a little early to say for sure, but only your sister knows that. She is what she is, but she's not "out of her mind" if her only "symptom" is that she likes girls more than boys. If that's the case, there is nothing you or your family can do about it other than make her life a living hell by trying to make her be other than what she is.

Where to start is to contact your nearest chapter of PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) for information. They're in the phone book and on the Internet.

2007-03-25 09:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2 4

First off, what symptoms besides being a lesbian do you really have to prove that she is "out of her mind". Homosexuality is not a mental disorder, it is a preference, if that is something you cannot bear to be related to, perhaps you yourself need to think about that. If she is indeed mentally ill, and her sexuality is because of that, I would say an institution is a bit too drastic for a first step, perhaps a psychiatrist could help you, maybe even just a psychologist. Honestly, it sounds as if you do not like her being a lesbian, and you are driving through the wonderful state of DENIAL. Perhaps I am wrong, try to think objectively about it. Try talking rationally.

2007-03-25 09:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by generic_tipo 2 · 11 3

They don't commit people for being gay, it's a sexual orientation not a psychosis. So she finally got up the nerve to tell her clearly insane family she is gay and you want to lock her up? Many people know they are gay from mid childhood, it is not a big shock that she would know this at 14. I knew I was straight before I was 14!
Too bad she has to live w you people because you are the wack a doodles!

2007-03-25 10:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 7 1

There's nothing wrong with her being a lesbian. She's not crazy if she's attracted to the same sex. A few of my friends are lesbian and they lead normal lives. If anything you and your mother should be getting help in order to deal with it because you obviously aren't taking it well.

2007-03-25 09:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by n.w. 2 · 4 3

My gosh, you and your mother need some serious psychiatric help. Are you out of your mind? Do you have any idea how badly you will screw your sister up if you do this? If you love her at all, then you will leave her alone and accept her for who she is. Shame on you for even thinking about getting her committed for something like this. I'm so glad you're not my sister.

2007-03-25 09:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by Merika 2 · 5 3

What is the correlation between being a lesbian and harmful behavior? If you guys don't like the fact that she is attracted to the opposite sex and are harassing her about it then THAT is what could be driving her be "out of her mind". Now, if on the other hand, she is "self destructive" then THAT is a different story. Instead of putting her down (even though you obviously don't agree with her choices), sit down and talk with her and find out what is bothering her. It could be something as simple as having acceptance from the two of you. Don't forget....."acceptance" is not the same as "agreeing with" her.

mb

2007-03-25 09:15:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6 5

She does seem kind of young to be coming to this decision, but let her experiment, she will figure it out later if she is or is not a lesbian. There is no need to try and get her committed anywhere, that is just nonsense, just let her be! If she does need to be committed it will probably be because you drove her to insanity.

2007-03-25 09:14:27 · answer #11 · answered by Life Is Illusive 3 · 7 3

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