How can you not feel sad when you are lonely?

Question

What can you do to not feel lonely when you are lonely.

Answer 1

I am working on that one myself. Rent a movie, a funny one preferably, phone everyone you know ( and like), invite people over, sign up for a course, try an online dating service

Answer 2

Take away the foundation. In other words, find the root of what is creating the emotion and remove it. If you're Sad because you're lonely. Your being lonely is the foundation to the sadness. Take away the lonliness to remove the sadness. To not be said while one is lonely the need only to think or feel like they're loved, surrounded by friends, or what have you. This is a very social world and no one is totally one. If you wanted a friend bad enough you could go out and make one. How bad do you want Change?

Answer 3

Maybe if you are lonely often & you don't work etc you need to get out into the world
have a walk
go to the shops & have your lunch out or just a coffee
or cut a lunch & sit on a beach or a park & watch wildlife
join a club or sport
do volunteer work & help people & that will help you also & you may meet people as well
help councils plant trees etc
there is lots to do if you just make the effort & i know that first time is the hardest but force yourself & your life may change for you

Answer 4

First you need to ask yourself why you are lonely? Lonliness is just a state of mind. And like any unpleasant state of mind it is perpetuated by believing in what constitutes this feeling for you. What I mean is: if you feel lonely because you think "I don't have anybody" or "I am alone in the world", the best way to resolve this feeling is by believing in the opposite; tell yourself: "One is never truly alone, the planet is populated with an infinite number of people having the exact same feelings as me right now." You make your own reality. Therefore, lonliness is a term/feeling that derails you from the truth, which instead may be that you are not connecting. So why aren't you connecting with all those people out there who could inspire and nourish parts of you? Are you stuck in a rut? Time to make a change! Are you in a controlling relationship? Time to assert your SELF. Did you lose a partner? Are you insecure? Address what it is that is holding you back and mend it by reminding yourself that there is more to living than that one thing/idea. Loneliness brings a form of beauty in that it helps you to remember YOU. Connecting reminds you of why you are worth sharing. Cross culturally expolore, for there are more beliefs/life styles that may fit you better. Don't just clean your house to feel better, clean your routine, in daily life and way of thinking.

Answer 5

It depends what you want to do when you are alone. Being alone and being lonely are two different things. I was lonely when I was married to my MD husband for 30 years. I felt less lonely when I was alone, during the divorce which took 3.5 years and cost me over l00K US dollars of my money.
Now I live in another land, I paint and draw which is a lonely occupation, I write short stories, again a lonely occupation but I do not feel lonely. I enjoy my life, even when I'm alone.

Answer 6

How can I not feel sadwhen I'm lonely? Sometimes, you jsut need to be away from people. We spend most of our time around people, and sometimes we just need to think.

For what you can do, you could of course answer questions on here. You could also chat with people online and meet some other friendly people. Or try getting in contact with a friend you haven't spoken to in a very long time.

You could also clean house, redecorate, rent some movies that'll cheer you up, go shopping for something you absolutely need, or take a walk.

Answer 7

By definition one is sad when they are lonely. I think what you are asking is, how can one not be sad when they are alone. There are countless people who welcome being alone, but that is quite different than being lonely.

When one is alone, the question is 'what are you doing?' Are you just sitting there obsessed with being alone or are you doing something that is useful? Often, and perhaps one can say this is always, when we are alone, that's our most productive and creative time. We cannot write, read, paint, create music or poetry, etc. when there are a dozen people around us all trying to vie for our attention. We need to alone to be creative.

So, we are back to where we started from, in order not to be lonely, when alone, you have to be doing something. What are your hobbies? What do you like to create? Find it and do it! And life will be grand.

Answer 8

I think most people feel sad when they're lonely is due to WHY their lonely not actually being lonely. Change the why(s) causing it then one won't feel sad about it!!!

Answer 9

It is up to the individual. Being alone can provide one with much joy. It eliminates distractions. People are of different bodytypes and some mechanically seek to be with other people much more than other types. It is a matter of hormonal differences. Some like to party, others prefer to be one on one or even alone.
What to do to change this natural tendency (any of them) is to visualize how you would prefer to be. (at least for a while to test the waters) See yourself in various situations in as much detail as possible. This is the same as prayer, the same as asking the universe, and leads you to the freedom to be how you choose. Have fun!

Answer 10

Loneliness can be a choice for some people, some people actually prefer it therefore there isnt a sadness attached with this particular occurance. I do agree however that most would feel a type of sadness when alone on this harsh planet.

Answer 11

realize you are alone only because you are the type to need space, peace and time to think about your own ideas.

you are a quite type to begin with however you feel the pull of energy and thrive in it. that is why you sometimes feel the need for company.

you are not lonely just because you are alone, you have your thoughts, your hobbies, yourself. enjoy the time you have to spend on things you like to do and keep the friends for another time when you need them to help you do somethings.