2007-03-25 08:53:51 · 19 answers · asked by emi_lou05 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I will never be with this man....I am married myself, Just wanted answers from people who have marryed the person they originally had a affair with?
2007-03-25 09:14:33 · update #1
My wife had an affair and left me for this man. Her relationship collapsed so fast...it didn't even last 6 weeks. I bet an affair works because of the danger, the erotic nature of doing something taboo...and when the light of real life shines on it, it melts away.
2007-03-25 08:58:53 · answer #1 · answered by Paul 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I did. But, my husband had been unfaithful to me all of our married life. We were married for 21 years. You can't begin to know how many affairs that I found out about.
My parents were very religious and begged me not to divorce him. The kids even said that they went to church and would pray for us not to get divorced.
Finally when my youngest child was 17 years old, I had an affair with a man that I met at my work. I told him all the details. By this time my husband and I were actually living in seperate rooms.
I even told my husband about my affair hoping that he would want me to be with him. He didn't care. We divorced and I married my lover 3 years later, it was nothing sudden.
My ex dates women half his age and will never commit again I'm sure. I am happily married, but this is really not your typical affair thing.
I know that an affair can happen at any time, but I have no desire. My husband was cheated on too and says that he has no desire. It does cross my mind occassionally. As a good friend of mine said, before she married a cheater, a leopard doesn't change it's spots.
Hopefully some of us learn and grow up to find real love.
2007-03-25 18:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by Karen H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would never do such a silly thing. Affairs are for fun,,,that's it! Only losers and suckers allow themselves to fall in love with someone that is OK with you cheating on the person you love. It's just a phuck...leave good enough alone.
Put your real attention into yopur wife or husband, then dump the phuckee after you're done.
2007-03-25 09:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
never had an affair, but i do know that a relationship built on the misery of another will never work out, because one reaps what they sow, and what u make happen to hurt someone else will come back to u one day, and the hurt may be in the same way u dealt it out. karma always finds its mark, may take some time but it comes.
2007-03-25 09:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to a woman I know and now her husband has cheated on her like a dozen times. But she's still with him, I can't imagine why.
I don't think I would be able to trust a man who was cheating on his wife with me. It would always be in the back of my mind whenever he'd go somewhere. I'd be thinking " is he at another womans house". He'd probably cheat on me if he cheated with me! I don't think it would work out. You can't have a relationship without some kind of trust!
2007-03-25 09:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by Strawberry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No and he dropped me like a hot potato for someone else. I hurt the one I loved the most and then got dropped. Granted I deserved it as I was in the wrong. It took forever for my hubbie to forgive me. He is a good person because he did. The grass is not greener on the other side trust me!
2007-03-25 09:13:51 · answer #6 · answered by jen 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
*sigh* not everything turns out like Tori Spelling and that Dean...whatever the f his name is. The truth is: GIVE IT UP HUN...if he cheated on his wife/gf, and you think you have a chance to be his one and only...FORGET IT!!! He'll do it again and again. Imagine when you are hitting close to 40 yrs old...do you think he's gonna want to stay with you or go bang this hot 19 yr old he met at a bar with his pals? Uh uh. MOVE ON and quit takin other people's men, damnit!
2007-03-25 09:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if you can live with the guilt for the rest of your life, divorce or break up with the person you cheated on and marry the other person. oh sorry, i thought it said how would you marry...
2007-03-25 09:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by rt1290 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relationship built by dishonesty never last because it started wrong in the first place and you can't build a lasting relationship on lies and deceit.....
2007-03-25 09:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by miester44 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree completely with what Paul said.....right on.
2007-03-25 09:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by Bobbie4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋