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my husband is so mad at me right now how do i get him to talk to me.......but hes really mad and he said he wont telk to me for 5 months......and its all bc of his stupidety

Answer 1

You're doing exactly what he wants you to do...fretting! He must know you well. Throw him a curve ball and go about your life without making any changes. Just go to work/or school, do the house cleaning...everything you usually do and ignore his childish behavior. He'll wonder why your'e not crying and begging. Talk to him without expecting a response "hey, I'm going to the store, I'll be back in a few minutes". Just go about your business. He'll have to find another way to "get to you" and it might just be talking. Treat him like the child he's being. Godloveya.

Answer 2

you need to learn how to talk to people #1 call your husband stupid is not helpful #2 its sound like a cool off is just what he need right now #3 dont yell because noone hear you sit down and talk hold it like a meeting you go #1st say what on you mind then tell him what he doing right and he do te same the go take a shower and make love good luck

Answer 3

well it depends on what he is mad about but not talking to you for 5 months sounds a bit mean or childish...if you did something that caused him to be mad then all you can do is to genuinely be sorry for it, apologize and do not do it again and treat him nicely from here on out and show him you are truly sorry but if you did not do something and he is just mad because you and he disagree about something then you both need to agree to disagree and simply move on...no two persons are going to see eye to eye on everything or agree on everything..you both are unique individuals and both of you are entitled to an opinion...my husband and I hold hands and pray together to get things back on track, if we have an argument...God always helps us with anything that we can not deal with on our own...best wishes to you both

Answer 4

Well some men are just dumb and if someone like a the wife or any women who will straighten them out they will get all bend out of shape about it. I bet if you wore a sexy nightie tonight and tell him if he want's some jsut ask you and I bey you won't be able to shut him up. Yea some men are just dumb and are too proud about their feelings been hurt. So dress up sexy tonight and tell him to ask for it. And if not IM or e-mail me and we can chat.

Answer 5

Being that you left out all the reasons why he won't talk to you one has to wonder, what the hell did you do? Re submit question, you sound afraid of the results.

Answer 6

Give him time to realize his "stupidity" and he will eventually come around. Guys like to have their space to cool down. If he needs five months, well.......... guess you'll be spending lots of time at the mall!

mb

Answer 7

When our husband's are mad at us, it is best to leave well enough alone. My favorite thing to do is to just walk by and not even look at him, like he isn't even there. It annoys them, they eventually come around. 2 can play the same stupid game. He doesn't want to talk to you, then you act like you are the only one living in the house. Let him cook, clean, do his laundry for himself, etc. Just write a note. Stating that if you are not going to talk to me, then you can make your own meals, pack your lunch, do your laundry, sleep in another room, and you can do your share of the cleaning. State what you are going to clean, and leave a list of areas that he needs to take care of.

They really don't like being put in that position.

State also, well if I have to live like I am living alone, so do you. And when you are alone you have to take care of things yourself.

You don't have to do this, but it doesn't hurt to give it a try, if you say it is his fault. Well I have a feeling he will come around.

Or like I said, act like he isn't even in the room, change the TV channel to what you want to watch, when ever you feel like it. They don't like that, and he will eventually say something.

Go outside, if it is nice and work in the flower beds, and just do what you would as if you were single. Call up a friend and meet them for a soda or lunch. Go out one evening with a friend.

If he doesn't want to talk to you, there isn't much you can do, except keep bugging him until he talks.

For me the other works for me, even when I am mad, boy can they do things you have wanted them to do for a long time.

I don't know how long you are married. I have been married for over 34 years.

Another thing I do is I write letters to my husband when I am upset. And I let it all out. Works every time. So you could try that, put down how your feel, how he has made you feel, and what the situation is, and who really caused the situation.

I don't know how long he hasn't been talking to you. But, for them it doesn't take long. Don't do any of his laundry, and when he needs something clean, point to the list, of do your own laundry. Even if you have to write down how to use the washer and dryer, and iron.

Not talking for 5 months is childish ( I wouldn't put childish in the letter that will make him more mad), you can not solve a problem if you don't discuss it, so put that in the letter. I always write letters, I find, I can get everything I want to say out. Cause if you confront him with everything you most likely will forget something and say dang I wish I had remembered to say that.

All you can do is try. Also in your letter write something like marriage is a 24/7 job, you get out of it what you put into it.

Also my saying for myself is: I don't believe in divorce, it is to easy to get divorced, and it is hard to stay married, it is a job, you have to work at it all the time.

Well I hope I gave you a few suggestions. You don't have to take them. But, I do hope your husband comes around and talks with you. You can't solve a problem by not discussing it. Maybe if you write him a letter, and leave a tablet with the letter, and ask him to write down how he feels, and what he feels is the problem. And how does he feel about the marriage, does he love you, does he want this marriage to last. Because you have to work at a relationship, it can not survive by itself. If you write a letter, make sure you read it over and over a couple of times, to make sure it sounds just right.

Good Luck MOM

Take care and God Bless

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Answer 8

hey i know that feeling but ... just gotta keep talking to him, bugging him and eventually he will spring and talk. my husband was also mad at me this morning and like for no reason and he wouldnt talk to me until i kept bugging him to talk.

good luck MEN!

Answer 9

I say enjoy the peace and quiet..oh by the way that is a form of emotional abuse.

Answer 10

if you are made to be alone in a marriage, walk the good path and be the best YOU you can. eventually, he will have to talk to you. are you headed for divorce? in that case, nothing can fix it.