I need help, I can't deal with this anymore?!?

Question

I never in my life had a friend, never, just because the way that I am, since I was a girl and now that I'm 19 and in College, I never felt so lonely in my life. My story is way too long. I work alone, I go out alone, and everytime I see people as friends or boyfriend and girlfriend, I cry. So much loneliness makes me want to do the worst, the "s" word. My parents doesn't support me on anything, my sister doesn't even know I exist, I fell like I don't fit in in this world. Should I need a psychiatrist, a psychologist or end my life?

Answer 1

You really sound like a slack. You need to raise your sense of self-perception and degree of worthyness to a higher level of accomplishment.
Set a series of goals and purpose in your life and try to achieve them the best way you can. Achieving your goals will help you to interact with other people and expand your learning experience.
Most of the time a low self-image is the primary cause of our loneliness. So, get over it. You can make it, I am sure you are not less than anyone else. You can have it like anyone else and fill your emptiness with all what could possibly make you happy. You can make it happen.

Answer 2

DOn't take this the wrong way.... but Find a lesbian... being female and not having any friends or lover, hanging with a lesbian just might do it for you. It won't make you a lesbian but I think that if you had another female that actually made you feel wanted and not judge you based on the fact that you might steal her man or backstab her. then once you get comfortanle around females then you might be able to meet guys and hang out in groups of poeple with mixed interests. don't just look in one spot to find ppl. go to different places that have differnt atmospheres and see what you can find. just because ppl hang in certain crowds doesn't make them that exact way. all my frinds are very different and would not get along in the same room.

PLEASE DONT END IT ALL!!!!!!!!!

I had no friends in Highschool and i didn't find my self Until 3yrs ago. When i finally accepted me I could start accepting others. Love yourself and be true to yourself.
It does sound like you need to seek some kind os counsiling or even psychologist. They can give you groups to meet in and exchange stories with. You are young and alot of young ppl go through the same issues and scuicide even with different issuses they thingk about it. When you are older you will look back and sy YOu were glad that you didn't do it. things will change after college.

Answer 3

Of course you should not end this life,you are 19 and have your whole life ahead of you. If you are thinking this way then yes,by all means see someone. I have always felt that I didn't fit in but I can tell you alot of people feel that way. Think positive,join a church,join a club in something that interests you and open your self up to meeting new people. You can be helped with therepy. Life is a precious gift and I am sure people will see what you have to offer and want to be your friend. As for family,join the club.My family wrote the book on dysfunctional and inattentive.The things that have helped me survive are God and therepy. Try to look at the good things you do have,there must be something to be grateful for.Hang in there and do your part and I promise you,things will get better. I am living proof of that.

Answer 4

Don't be silly. There are 2 kinds of people introverts and extroverts, some people are extremely introverted they become loners. The fact that you have diagnosed your own problem means you are on your way to recovery.

It is defeatist to contemplate suicide, every life has a purpose including yours. If you can afford a psychiatrist by all means go and talk to one, they may have a professional way to help you.

If you cannot afford one, there are other ways you can walk out of a lonely life and I will give you a few:
1. If you are a Christian join a prayer group , teach Sunday school - religious groups provide very good emotional support, research before proceeding and stay away from dogmatic groups.
2. Write down the kind of things that interest you, sign up for continuing education evening courses. This is a great way to meet people who share your interests and lifestyle.
3. Use the same interest list to find agencies looking for volunteers, this is another great way to meet people and share your interests.
4. Find books written by Norman Vincent Peale and also see if you can find this book: How to Win Friends and Influence People a self-help by Dale Carnegie.
Go ahead and re-invent yourself.

Answer 5

I too have dealt ( and still dealing with) this as well. I spend a great deal of time alone almost to the point where I almost feel my sanity slipping away, but (to make a long story short) the best thing you can do is to put yourself out there. I know that can be hard because you are probably very shy, I know I am, and making friends is as difficult as climbing Mt. Everest in a bathing suit and stilettos. Do NOT end your life, you have to remember God is always there for you, even if you don't believe and if you ask him, he will send you the right people to fill out your life. Please, just trust me. I will pray for you. I know very much what this misery is like.

Answer 6

It can be hard if you haven't had the tools you need to be social and now actually fear it.

A psychologist is a good place to start, and maybe your doctor, if you need anti-depressants (a psychologist may refer you to a doctor for them).

Some people have no support from their families, and that's sad, but the thing to do is to try to succeed in building a life despite them - you'll have a greater appreciate for the things in life when you do get them.

And, I know that at 19 it seems that if it's that way it'll be that way forever, but things happen for different people at different times. At 19 I wasn't quite in the situation you are, but still unhappy in many ways. It took a few years, but I adapted, and eventually found someone, got married, and it's hard to believe I ever felt as hopeless as I did when I was 16 or 19.

Answer 7

I know how you feel and for me doctors and drugs did not work. For myself the answer is to rely on myself for my own happiness. When you become self sufficient and don't rely on others for your emotional needs people see you as strong and are naturally attracted to you. Remember the saying to have a friend be a friend, people are naturally attracted to strength not weakness. If someone treats you badly, stay away from them even if they are family. Everyone belongs in this world, you just need to find out where. If you don't fit in somewhere then go where you do fit in. Above all do not act clingy, needy or desperate, you will only be a victim. The answer is within you, not in others. Be honest, kind and trustworthy and you will find friends because you will be the type of friend everyone wants.

Answer 8

With what you just told me it is no wonder that you feel all alone. Your parents and sister have not acknowledged you so in your way of thinking why would any one else. Here is a secret I want to share with you, you cannot choose your family, but you can choose your friends.
For the time being see a psychologist and or if their is a counselor at your college see him or her too. Perhaps getting involved with a group who has issues such as yours; you may not be as alone as you think you are.
I have a difficult mother and sister myself, way too, long to talk about. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 9

Hi Marilyn,
It does help to talk to someone about your problems.I do recommend that you talk to a therapist as they can give you
suuggestions to improve your life.I understand your situation
as I went thru something similar myself.It can sometimes be very stressful at your age as expectations are high and people are dealing with school and trying to get there life going.You must remember that everyone has problems even though they may go around acting and saying everything is great.You must be good to yourself and love yourself first.I think volunteering for a group that helps people is a good way to make friends and people that do that are usually compassionate and understanding.be true to yourself as we all live our life at our own pace.help others and you focus less on yourself and the benefits to your spirit are tremendous.Try it and you might find exactly what you now feel you lack.


Alan

Answer 10

Honey, if you need a true answer to this question... look inside. Everyone needs a psychologist. Nobody should end their life...but you need to get on some kind of anti depressent of something, thinking like that is not healthy. Furthermore, find a friend... it may seem difficult but there's always someone willing to be your friend...

Good luck!