in the old days what did men do to win thire girls back from other men was it a fight to the death?

Answer 1

In primitive times? We probably don't know enough yet about early human behavior to be sure - but it's an interesting and developing field of study. For instance were we 'paired up' or did we live in tribes with one male at the top holding onto all of the females, while the other males waited for an opportunity to 'sneak a look inside' the harem (or for the female to sneak a look outside - frequently seen in animal behavior), or to knock the top male off his perch in a fight involving posturing as much as punching? Or were woman in charge while males competed for their attention (bees do it that way...).

In modern times the tendency not to settle matters with a fight (even if not to the death) can work in your favor. Usually what you see is that 'sneaking a look inside/outside' thing. In that case you have an excellent chance of 'getting the woman (or man) back', but you need to 'keep your cool' and play on all of the things that make you more attractive to her (in the long term and the short term) than the 'other fellow'. Being aggressive (to her or the new person) is unlikely to impress her, but being aggrieved is reasonable as it shows commitment/loss. It also pays to try and understand what aspect of the new person (or of the situation) makes him/it more attractive - momentarily - for your mate.

If you get the opportunity to impress the person that has just left you that you can offer the qualities that they went to the other person for, and if you persuade them that there will be no 'cost' in returning to you, they often will and settle back into the relationship.

People tend to invest a lot of energy into relationships, and don't leave them (permanently) lightly. But the person doing the straying, 'testing the waters' and relieving the boredom and frustration usually don't see themselves (clearly) as permanently leaving. Often their decision to make the move 'permanent' is driven by the over-reaction of (rejection by) the person they have just left.

The interesting thing is that the 'jealous reaction' (which fairly cleary is tied to our primitive - and fundamental - psychology) doesn't mesh in with this 'modern' effective approach. Which suggests that relationships in primitive societies 'worked' differently to how they do now. But a fight to the death in any society (human or animal) is a very rare thing, because while the 'need to breed' is a strong force, the 'live to fight - and breed - another day' impulse is usually stronger.

But although we are talking about aspects of early human society and psychology (paleo-psychology), this really belongs in Human Relationships or Psychology, not History.

Answer 2

It depends.

In the earliest days the woman would have no choice. Her parents chose who she'd marry.She couldn't openly go for someone else. She could sneak out and have an affair but if caught she could be killed or beaten. And the law would agree.

This happened all the way up until the middle ages and chivalry came about. Women were now honored a bit but still she pretty much was told who to marry. If she snuck out she was likely called a whore and kicked out of her home.

Renaissance was somewhat the same but women started having more say (at least is much of europe) as to who the were betrothed to. Duels came as ways for the men to defend their "reputations" against others.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

sometimes, yeah

In prehisoric times, men could just steal women and drag em back into cabes and things like that.

I kind of wish it was like that. I'm big. I can think of somebody to steal too. I would steal her if a saw a chance at it.

Answer 5

This, like many other cultural questions, depends on culture. "Old days" applies differently to different cultures. Some might be warrior cultures, others were as advanced societally as we are and peaceful, so it depends on the area and the time.

Answer 6

If a girl left you for another man, let her go, never fight over her, a girl that would leave you for another man isn't worth the fight.