I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and the past year his son has been so mean to my daughter and I. His son is 11 years old. His son tells us that he hates us and doesn't want us here cause it was better when it was just him and his dad, cause he could do what he wanted when he wanted to and he never had rules to follow when it was just him and his dad. His son has been throwing things at me and yelling and bitching at me all the time. Just the other day infornt of my daughter he throw his soccer ball at me and when I went to tell my boyfriend about what his son did, my boyfriend did nothing to his son. I treat his son and my daughter the same and sometimes I will do things with his without my daughter around so he know that I love him and that I want to be part of his life. We have tried couseloring to help all of us to become one family not two but it did not help. I love both my boyfriend and his son but right now I don't know what to do or even if I should stay.
2007-03-25 08:18:07 · 11 answers · asked by ~£ø§t Ã?ñgë£ ~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Leave..
You don't want a husband that will permit you to be abused,
by anyone...
2007-03-25 08:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It appears the boyfriend is the problem. Counseling won't help if everyone doesn't follow the counselor's advice and somehow I doubt that allowing the child to be hostile and violent toward you without any repercussions was part of the counselor's advice.
The boyfriend is doing a serious disservice to his child. You can always find another boyfriend, but that child is being raised in a way that could seriously affect his adulthood in a negative way.
Have a serious talk with the boyfriend about this, and that you'd like to try counseling again but everyone must do their part...no point in wasting money if he's going to ignore the child's behavior...if he refuses to get serious about the child's issues then if I were you I'd move on...you can only do so much when your boyfriend won't support your effort to help the child at all.
I feel sorry for the kid...and the father needs to get hit upside the head with a cosmic clue-by-four and wake up...
2007-03-25 15:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO! that is not a man you are with. Any man would not let the brad get away with such things. Think of yourself better than what they take you and your daugther for. I feel for your daug because her mom is all involved in this man in forget about her. She is to young to be going thru this adult stress. Bother poor daug. I hope u have your own place or if you live him get yourself together to move on. Boys and dad like that will never change. REmember the way you meet a person that is how it will end up. The little boy is like that he might hurt your daughter if not already--i hope she can talk to you. That boy could rape that poor girl. MOve on. Now. forget about it. He is disrespecting u as his woman. He can even control his own soon or are they the same.
2007-03-25 15:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As painful as it will be, I think for your daughter's sake you should leave. She will come to believe that the boys behavior is normal & acceptable, and it sure is NOT!
Be very clear to your BF and his son how much you care, but that you can't stay in an environment that allows that sort of misbehavior.
Perhaps that alone will get your BF to do something about his son.....but follow through if he doesn't.
I bet the son was never spanked----and he sure needs a swat on the rear!!
God bless...you have to put your child first.
2007-03-25 15:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh,,,i think you know the answer already,,,,boyfriend doesn't repect you or your daughter,and doesn't really seem to care that his son is a spoiled brat....it's your job to protect your daughter and with no help from that boy's father,,your really the only parent who cares....you can do better,,you sound like the only adult here. Is this the way you want live in a relationship??
2007-03-25 15:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by igottadrive2001 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hello the first problem is that your boyfriend needs to put his foot down with his son and let him know that he needs to respect you and your daughter then if that doesnt work you might as well get out of the relationship because if not over time you will get tired
2007-03-25 15:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by candeeecanne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend had a wife before you and divorced her he is probably just mad that another girl is in his fathers life. If not tell your boyfriend that the boy is having problems and that he NEEDS to do something or you are going. That's all I can think of right now.
Good luck whatever you choose to do!
2007-03-25 15:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by sillyshas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your priority is to your daughter, and in this scenario, she's not coming out on top....I say leave if the boyfriend won't stand his ground and make his son behave.
2007-03-25 15:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its best to leave if your boyfriend isn't willing to teach his son to have respect for you and your daughter and turns a blind eye to the things that are going on, you can find someone who will have respect for you and your child but this guy isnt that person....
2007-03-25 16:12:55 · answer #9 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about yourself and your daughter, does she deserve this treatment? What is she learning from this experience, she may end up in the same situation someday, do you want that?
2007-03-25 15:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by Deedra S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't really answer your question. It's difficult for all of you.
I hope everything works out, though.
2007-03-25 15:28:38 · answer #11 · answered by amelie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋