The other night my babys father calls me up on the phone and tells me that he doesnt want to be with me anymore because he doesnt feel the same way about me! I'm 18 and 5 months pregnant and hes 20. I love him so much and it hurts that he would even call and say that to me! He still calls me everyday since but i feel like i can not talk to him anymore he has broken my heart! And i dont know what to anymore...I can even stare him in his eyes...I dont know if he is just scared about the baby on the way and maybe we will end up being together or if he is really through!Help
2007-03-25 08:12:51 · 6 answers · asked by HopelessRomantic 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think that I have some words of encouragement for you. My cousin just had her baby 2 weeks ago and the father wasn't present throughout the pregnancy. I think that it is a good thing that your baby's father is keeping in contact with you. But let me explain what my cousin went through and see if you can take anything positve from this. It's funny that my cousin never calls me anytime something good is going on in her life, but when she needs to talk about something that may not be so positive or any problems that she needs an opinion on that is major then she calls me......lol. I was the first to know that she was pregnant and right from the 1st day I told her to gather all the positive strength that she needed and don't let anything negative stand in her way. Not the sorry baby's father ( In this case your's no but her's yes), negative friends, or even relatives that have their 2 cents. Also my cousin is in her last year of college pre med and is 21 and graduating this spring. I told her keep going to school and hold her head high and be strong no matter what. She will be going straight in school for her Master's in Psychology. She finishes her classes and our family is there for her which is the most important part. Rely on your family sweetie because all in all you have another human being waiting she his/her mother's face so if you can't find it in your heart to forgive and push forward and remove the negative out of your spirit right now then let that child be the motivation for you to do so. Kids are one of the most precious gifts that God can ever give to a woman and he picked you so praise him and keep moving for the reward of that child is near. Don't stress over your relationship let it work out in due time because you two have a child together. No matter what that is a bond that noone can take away from neither of you good or bad. So sweetie please be strong for there are things in this world far worse than this and I have a feeling that this not the end for you but yet the beginning!!! Be strong and be blessed!!! And what are you having a girl or a boy? My cousin had a little girl and named her Aria which means melody in music and she is the cutest little angel.
2007-03-25 08:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by kimthornton1231 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like daddy has cold feet and is scared.If he doesn't help with the baby remember some very strong and wise people have grown up in single homes.Broken hearts do mend with time and you'll love this baby even more if you have to be a single mom--hang in there and be healthy
2007-03-25 15:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by dymond 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a rotten thing for him to do, given that you are going to have a baby together. He must be very immature. Unfortunately, if he feels that way, there is nothing you can do without making yourself seem desperate. If he thinks that, he will proabably mess you about all the time. The very best thing would to ignore him (very hard, I know), concentrate on looking after yourself and your baby and make sure you know his details and address so that he can pay maintenance to you and his child once the baby is born.
It is not going to be easy, but good luck.
2007-03-25 15:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by the_emrod 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he is scared about the baby, but i really don't think that's why he's dumping you. the fact is, most guys that age are just dogs. they aren't the least interested in settling down to one woman, whether she's having their baby or not. i know you think you are so in love with him it's breaking your heart to not be with him, but trust me, when that baby comes along, you'll know what true love REALLY is. if he doesn't want to be with you, you can't make him, and if it's a little case of cold feet and he comes crawling back in a while, tell him to piss off anyway. where you're at, you need people in your life you can rely on, not some wishy-washy BOY who can't make up his mind to stick with what he started. if he can be a good father without being a partner to you, that's all to the good, but don't count on it. concentrate on the baby. that will be the most joyous experience you'll ever have, and screw him if he wants to miss out on it. he sounds like the average piece of crap most young men are these days, and believe me, i've known enough of them to know that it's going to be a cold day in hell before he grows up enough to realize what an idiot he is. you don't need him for anything at all. you don't need him to be there when you have the baby. what help could he be? you have to carry it and go thru labor and delivery. what's he gonna do, hold your hand and get all grossed out by the birthing process? yeah, big help. if he can't make an adult relationship work, how can he make a relationship with his child work? if he's not willing to try with you, do you really think he'll try with the baby? after all, what does a baby have to offer him, selfish bustard? at the age he's at, if he can't eat it, make money off it, have sex with it, party with it, or play with it, it's no good to him. christ, i know guys twice his age still living at home who pulled the same thing on some poor girl when they were your boyfriends' age. one of them went so far as to marry his girl, and then continued to go around with some other hoochie behind the wifes' back. now they're divorced and he hasn't seen his daughter in three years. is that what you want to go through? be done with ths jag-off now, before the child ends up getting caught in the middle.
2007-03-25 15:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by zoë's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know really what to say. But go to your family and have them help you. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-25 15:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by tonton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We really can't help you, but go to your family. They probably are the best resource for you right now.
2007-03-25 15:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by kittenbrower 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋