As a parent, would you want to know what's troubling your child?

Question

I'm in my 20's, so hardly a child, but would you won't to know anyway, even if there was nothing you could do to help

just noticed I got the spelling wrong, only had 2 glasses of red! lol

Answer 1

as a mother of 2 girls and a boy... I always talk to my kids when I see something is troubling them...they think im nosy.lol... they are teens ... I would love it if my child is in their 20s and needed me.. some kids dont know what they have... and u seem to need ur parents still... I wish I could help you... but if u need ur parents go to them and talk to them.. im sure they will listen to you.. they might be afraid to ask... so if u go to them im sure they will listen to you... as a mother I know I love my kids as im sure ur parents love you and would love to help... take care and remember go to them...

Answer 2

Yes of course. Once you give birth to a person, or adopt and nurture them through life, you are their parent forever.

I have two daughters, 21 and 25. They are best friends. We three are quite close and somehow we keep tabs on each other. I encouraged free speaking and we have never lost that gift. Although, a few months ago I heard something that happened to my daughter and I was ticked she never confided in me.

he said, well you would have said "I told you so about him". Then she realized I have never said that and apologized. I was hurt just a bit that she did not want me to worry. Yet I am not a Mom who intrudes or is "in their faces" if you know what I mean.

Just by listening a parent does a lot of helping. They are the ones most kids would like to talk to. Sometimes too they can give a slightly different slant on things that could just help. You might be surprised.

Somehow I think you have a story there and you would like to confide or get it off your chest and you are worrying about the response your mom or dad might have. Best to just find time to be alone with them and broach the topic. "When is a good time for us to have a little talk?" or something equally innocuous.

Most parents are happy to listen. If yours cannot, see about the parents of your best friend. I confided in the mother of a best friend, long after she and I had drifted apart....

Answer 3

I am a parent and i would want to know because i handle the truth better than things hidden from me but on the other hand not every one is the same.This something that you are worried about and you need to share it with someone and who knows they maybe able to help even if it is just support,only you know how your parents would take the news. I don't believe in a martyr but as i said not every one is the same

Answer 4

Yes, They dont always want to say.. or can't... but having had a son that was suicidal due to bullying and not saying anything for a long time, I wish he had said something earlier, then the process to sort it out could have started earlier, and he might not have had to deal with it on his own for so long. Once we had talked, we got help. It helped him. So I was glad he told me what was worrying him.
They can worry about less severe things too. If they bottle things up it makes it worse. We have an agreement with both children now, that if anything worrying them, they talk to either myself of my husband. Often, just talking helps them realise what they are worrying about is not such a big deal. Its good to talk!

Answer 5

Well I'm not a child anymore, but I'm 16 and sometimes I don't want my parents to find out all my secrets, especially if it's private.

I want to deal with my own problems even though i know my parents just want to help and support me but sometimes they can't do everything for me.

I think parents gotta let their children grow up by themselves or else they never will grow up like some people who haven't today.

Answer 6

Yes i would always want to know!!
You may think there is nothing they can do to help,but there could be another way around the problem...even if i couldn't help i would find someone who could.
Us parents will do whatever it takes to protect or help our child. They would want to know,you may be in your 20's but you will always be their girl.

Answer 7

Oh yes! my two are older than you but it churns me up when I know something is bothering them. Luckily we are really close so I get a gut feeling and only have to ask and they are open about problems even if I can`t help or they don`t want my help.

Answer 8

well any parent with respect for their child yes my daughter was being bullied quite bad at school myself and my husband both tried to get it out of her but she kept saying she was fine then one night when i got her out the bath i noticed some bruises on her so i asked where she got them from she burst into tears and told me she was being kicked and punched by one of the boys at school it took 5 weeks to get it out of her but we didn't stop till we were told even the head master didn't know what was going on till she told him (she was 6 at the time) she is 7 now and not had any problems since and wont if i have anything to do with it well she wont let them either (we enrolled her in karate lessons)

Answer 9

You actually learn to know what is troubling your child. It is a skill every decent parent can learn.Every cry or whimper they make you can distinguish between tired, hurt, hungry, aggitated, hot, cold, wanting, happy and so on.

Answer 10

Sure would want to know if something was troubling my child and I have raised 3 by myself and they are now on their own.