say you've split up with a boyfriend that wasnt as serious as you thought.
while you were together he mentioned that he was totally against abortion, yet did not want to be a father.
if you're pregnant and are considering an abortion, what would you do?
2007-03-25 08:08:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If he "wasn't as serious as I thought" then I personally would go ahead and have the abortion.
I mean, the guy isn't serious about a relationship with me, and he says he "doesn't want to be a father." That tells me that he doesn't want ME, and he doesn't want a baby.
If he is willing to have the fetus put into himself, and go through nine months of pregnancy and then have it removed at the end, AND take all responsibility for caring for it and paying for it, then I would go along with that.
But no way would I be pregnant and give birth for a guy who didn't even want to be a father. I'd have an abortion so fast it would make your head spin.
This is what *I* would do. Other people are entitled to do whatever they think would be best for *them.*
And to those posters who worry that having an abortion may cause problems for her later on - having a baby will cause MORE problems. Plus, not all women suffer from depression as a result of having an abortion. Many of them feel only relief at having it over with.
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2007-03-25 08:18:59 · answer #1 · answered by catrionn 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It's no skin off his nose if his ex gets an abortion. Nobody wants to pay child support. Your scenario of men telling women what to do is the reason a lot of people support abortion but it's just not realistic. I would not consider an abortion because I'd have to live with the consequences.
2007-03-25 08:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by psst..its me 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would never consider abortion because I am against abortion. I guess that you would have to do what you think is best for you and your child. When I was pregnant, my baby daddy and I split up before I even found out because he had started being childish. He threatened to kill me when he found out if I did not have an abortion. I did not do it because I am against abortions and also because our daughter did not ask to come into this world. He cannot say that he do not want to be a father if he is continuously doing what it takes and protecting himself from fatherhood. Do what you think is best for you and your baby. If he do not like it then tough. O got three words for that: CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-25 08:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kristian 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him, its his child too. Even if he said he doesn't want to be a father this may change things if he is really against abortion and this is not your burden to bear alone. And dont get an abortion until you have all the facts. A lot of young mothers get abortions and suffer severe depression later because of it.
Just dont allow yourself to be bullied or guilt tripped, go with your heart and your minds best combined response :)
2007-03-25 08:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've been in that situation. I was pro-life before I got pregnant and I am still pro-life. I kept the baby. I am doing better than what everyone else thought. Right now I'm a school teacher. I got help from noone and I was poor when I got pregnant.
2007-03-28 03:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by SAHM/Part Time Tutor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you two broke up, then you should do whatever you want to do. just know that abortion is not an easy thing to go through and you shouldnt use it for your " get out of jail free ticket" if the relationship wasnt as serious as you thought, maybe it wasnt serious enough to be having sex... you should at least let him know you are pregnant though and see if HE wants to raise the child, if not... i'd do whatever i wanted to do.
2007-03-25 08:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by deceptions 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hundreds of women raise their children on their own without the father. You have to somewhat be a strong and unselfish person to do this. If you consider abortion, it's completely selfish and not considering anything about the child.
2007-03-25 08:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
This is kinda serious question--tell the boy that ur carrying his child and see his reaction-if he wants to commit--get married--if u guys are too young or if he wont commit--u better have an abortion and do it before 12 weeks or earlier--raising a kid is NOT easy-so many unwarranted questions and trust me they will ask who the father is-and u wont wanna say anything-if ur opting for terminating ur pregnancy--do it under a qualified dr-not worth sleazers to do the job--if u have an older sister-talk to her--
2007-03-25 08:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by fahima 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
if your ex doesnt want to be a father fair enough but don't make a judgement on what HE thinks. i'm guessing that u r pregnant and are in the situation in your question, your life, your baby, your choice. don't let your ex tell you what to do. Good Luck
2007-03-25 08:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
decide what is right for you. at the end of the day it is your body and your life. its a difficult situation and its completely up to you if u tell him, if you don't, if you get rid of the baby, if you have it and put it up for adoption, or keep it. don't rush into anything tho. you need to make sure you explore all the other options first, or you may regret it at a later date. do some soul searching, but don't let anyone else push you into doing somethig you don't want to!
2007-03-25 08:18:59 · answer #10 · answered by risendevil2k2 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋