Alright my fellow lezzies...how do I go about switching "roles" with my girlfriend. She's always been very passive and I've always been very aggressive and after 2 years it'd be nice to switch it up, but she's very timid....any ideas. Email me with responses or suggestions you consider too naughty for the answers column. A sincere thanks!
2007-03-25 08:05:11 · 6 answers · asked by greenbuddha03 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The talking to her part has been accomplished...I guess I'm just trying to find more ways to help her not feel soooo....inhibited. It's frustrating because I've never been inhibited...and she has never really "crossed that line." In the meantime, anyone with a mean spirited answer can **** off. I like the way I look and I love my girl implictly and that's all that matters.
2007-03-25 08:14:04 · update #1
Get her all turned on, then stop. Pull her on top of you and then just kinda stop. Maybe she'll see that she's forced to do something.
Try playing this game my girl and I used to call "hands free." Have her sit in you lap. Start kissing and explain that neither of you can touch the other with her hands. The first to touch the other loses. Make the prize some type of take charge activity like 'the winner gets to tie the loser up and have her way with her.' or 'the winner gets to do whatever she wants to the loser' whatever. Lose on purpose and see if she takes the reins.
2007-03-25 16:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by pjonkml 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try slowing introducing her to the idea. Talk to her to see if she has any "ideas" for the two of you. Tell her what you want her to do (out of the bed would be less intimidating). When she does something you like let her know you liked it. Hopefully, she'll come around.
2007-03-25 15:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by bernel1403 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not make a game of it? Cut a piece of paper into several strips...write a sex/non sex act on each one. Take turns drawing from a hat...foot massage...neck rub...kiss for 10 seconds...lock eyes for 10 seconds...if she starts slowly and builds more confidence, she'll be more comfortable with her assertiveness. Have fun and good luck!
2007-03-25 15:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by Dodger's mom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk dirty to her to make react and make want to take charge.
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2007-03-25 15:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You let your hair grow out and stop wearing men's attire. I swear I don't understand why so many lesbians want to look like men and dress like men and then hang out with each other. And why is it just one role or the other? Is your entire sexuality an act? A persona? If so, sell tickets.
2007-03-25 15:09:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 7⤋
I'm gay...but my first response would be----talk to her...tell her what you want.
2007-03-25 15:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋