sex question?

Question

what do i do? i am married to a man who i have no sexual attraction to. when we have sex i cannot orgasm because i am not attracted to him. ive tried fantasizing, but he talks too much during sex and i cant. what can i do? im ready to scream with frustration? how do i deal with this? ive tried the vibrator thing, but it only works when i think of someone else....help!

Answer 1

Your lack of interest in sex is just the tip of the iceberg.

You obviously do not feel happy and secure, so you don't want to share your body with him.

If you think you love him and he loves you, try to work it out. Look for help- in church, or with a psychologist.

But this is the kind of thing that sooner or later will end your relationship if you don't address it ASAP.

Good luck.

Answer 2

When did you discover that you weren't physically attracted to him, before or after the marriage? Now that you have discovered that you are, if you want your marriage to stand, you need to seek some kind of counseling. It may be better for the both of you to go so the feelings and emotions can be ironed out at once.

Answer 3

Try getting a divorce and find someone your going to be happy with. Maybe you should tell him what you told us here today. I'll bet if he knew, he wouldn't continue wasting his time trying to please you. Sounds like he does all of the work while you just lay back and do nothing but fantisize about someone else. Try participating one in a while or set him free.

Answer 4

Tell him to stop talking during sex.

As for the attraction thing, that is another issue altogether. Why did you marry him?

Answer 5

duct tape his mouth shut during sex, try roleplayin stuff like that.