how do you determine verbal/mental abuse? Is someone telling someone exactly what they think of them abuse, even if it is fact? Or is it when someone says things which belittle someone? Thanks all.
2007-03-25 07:37:58 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
jlji........ no im not american...british and proud!
2007-03-25 07:43:48 · update #1
mental abuse is playing with someones mind.....pulling them to you then pushing away.....or just playing mind games one upmanship ....difficult to explain but I know what I mean.
Giving someone your opinion of them is being honest....they can take itor leave it metal abuseis more insiduous
2007-03-25 09:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Verbal abuse is when someone attacks you using words. Verbal abuse is very harmful and painful. It can ruin your self esteem and make you feel worthless and like you do not deserve anything good in your life.
When someone tells you what they think of you, in a respectful way, it is not abuse. For example, if someone tells you "I am flattered, but I do not care for you in a romantic way. I am sorry if I led you the wrong way". This is not verbal abuse.
If someone tells you "are you kidding?? I would never, ever date you. Your a %$#@ moron and ugly as they come. I can't believe that you would think I could be interested in you". This is verbal abuse.
So, if someone is belittling you and trying to make you feel bad, then yes, it is verbal abuse.
If you are in a verbally abusive relationship...get out, fast. It usually does not stay verbal...it can and usually ends up physical and nobody is worth it. NOBODY!
2007-03-25 07:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by saving.babies 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Verbal Abuse is when some body sets out to deliberately hurt another in a verbal context, taking no consideration for how that person might feel... obnoxiousness and ignorance is to blame. I would not say telling someone what you think of them as being abusive unless it is intended to be offensive... done in a tact full and diplomatic form.. would be classed as constructive criticism... which is good for us all at times.
2007-03-25 07:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by tinker33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Verbal and mental is the same. It is wrong and can really take someone down fast. If its the truth sometimes it is best to bite that tongue. Words are hard to take back even if you say sorry. A friend of mine took his life all because his wife always said he was worthless and will never mount to anything he took his life cause he felt no good. So if you are the sayer then stop if someone else is get away from that person and good luck
2007-03-25 07:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
To me verbal/mental abuse is screaming, cursing, belittling, threatening, condescending, angry, yelling, and just anything that makes the victim feel cowed, inferior, desolate, dreadful, feeling like a loser, etc.
Telling someone exactly what you think of them in a low voice may be fine if you never intend to be around that person again. If you have a relationship, you will have to use your words carefully. Words can hurt and for some, irreparable.
2007-03-25 07:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Telling someone what you think of them is not abuse it is honesty however if it is a constant thing then yes it can become abuse.
Belittling someone is abusing them if it is done a lot of the time.
It will all depend on the situation - mental abuse is someone who is messing with your head all the time - telling you they love you one minute but following on with a put you down line.
2007-03-25 07:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is all in the way things are stated. If someone uses an intimidating threatening tone or posture when telling someone exactly what they think of them, it can come across as abusive. It is all in intent. We can cause a lot of harm with our words whether they are true or not, they can be hurtful and cruel. Belittling someone can be verbal/emotional abuse, because you are basically tearing down someone's value of themselves.
2007-03-25 07:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there are many types of abuse mental verbal and physical it starts subtly with mental then progresses to verbal where they degrade you verbaly make you feel worthless and all the time strip you of you self confidence and self esteem thus making you dependant on them you think you can change them you cant they never change, next comes the violence this comes with the verbal abuse , if anyone tells you your worthless or an idiot get out and stay out there is a world out there and people who will listen and help
2007-03-25 08:48:04 · answer #8 · answered by chris p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, telling someone what you think of them, even in fact, is not considered verbal abuse, it just their thoughts. Verbal abuse is something that is said that degrades, belittles or humiliates someone or makes the feel ashamed or worthless.
2007-03-25 07:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by mcbobly2001 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Verbal abuse is when someone is constantly putting you down and cursing at you to make themselves look or seem better than you. Facts can also be used against you. Anything that hurts u to a point of actually questioning urself, is abuse.
2007-03-25 07:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by Chen 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
verbal abuse, is when the play mind games with you and belittle you to make you feel worthless. as way to control you. British and proud to !
2007-03-25 08:15:36 · answer #11 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋