lack of confidence?

Question

is there a way i can stop feeling so ugly and have confidence in my lil ole self???

Answer 1

There should be a root cause to the way you feel. Discover it, then resolve it.
Every human being has a powerful life force inside them. They should use everything in their power to make the most of it, aswell as their surroundings and enviroment. Afterall, you're all you've really got; when you finally realise this, lacking in confidence will no longer seem an issue.

Answer 2

Confidence is never an easy thing to acquire, at least in my opinion. Some people have told me to have "fake confidence" and that it'll eventually turn into the real thing, but I feel that kind of confidence is shallow. I think what you need to realize is that looks are a subjective thing and that many people will find you attractive and many people won't, regardless of whether you are supermodel or Joe Nobody. In other words, if you are feeling ugly, just realize that it's just a temporary feeling and that there will be times you feel otherwise in addition to the many others out there who will find you attractive all of the time. Finally, confidence is really a feeling of self-worth. If you want confidence, do things that make you feel like a good person and a lot of other worries will disappear. If you do good for others and try to improve yourself, you will feel good about yourself.

Answer 3

just remember that we all look different and we all have hang ups. If your a good person then that should make you feel good about yourself, people looks change all the time people put on weight, get more wrinkles, brake out in spots(thats me at the mo) but as long as you treat others how you would like to be treated yourself that will attract peolpe to you ,which will make you feel good. Try acting like you have load of confidence just wak intoplaces like you own them you will eventually get to a point where you dont need to act anymore. Give it a try it works

Answer 4

Yes!!! You are a unique human being, keep this in mind, always walk with your head held high, you have talents, you have beauty which comes from the inside, always make an effort to look your best, and you'll feel good, be confident, even if you don;t feel it, its more appealing. Be assertive, and take control of your life, you can do it!!

Answer 5

I felt the same way when I was younger. When I turned 38 I really took a good look at my youthful photos and realized I was not ugly at all, in fact I was quite attractive. It was my own faulty perception. Of course at 38 how I looked didn't matter so much any more as I was comfortable in my own skin. Once you realize you are fearfully and wonderfully made and that the very hairs of your head are numbered then you can value yourself more. The good book tells us that we are to love others as we love ourselves, so, until we love and like who we are then it is not possible to truly love anyone else. Be loving, kind, fair and have spiritual depth and everyone will value that in you. Mmm

Answer 6

confidence is merely accepting the state of mind which says... your opinion doesnt matter. i dont know you, and you mean nothing to me...

so why let it bother you.

the only person you are truly responsible for is the person who stares back at you from teh mirror.

confidence is based on knowing.. knowing youre as worthy and as good as the next man... for we are ALL created equal...

and maybe its coz im in a wheelchair, and after a few road accidents im not too pretty either... and do i care? my wife of 25 years doesnt mind, nor do my kids and their mates..my friends dont even consider it..evidently i was an ugly fuk before i lost my leg, the use of my right arm and a wicked scar across my face pirate style... where my helmet visor slashed me open...

the good lookinng kids score all the time.. us not so good looking opnes have to depend on whats inside... it makes us less shallow... and girls really like that... and we tend to mature better, grow old disgracefully... and enjoy it whilst it lasts...

Answer 7

I know it sounds corny, but look within yourself. try to figure out why you feel like it. Everyone will say go out and get some friends, but sometimes, from experience even this can feel out of reach. Try to do a goal every day however mundane or tiny, and every so oftern do something completely new. it'll help you feel like you've achieved something however small, and in time hopefully it'll help your self confidence.

If you want a chat, message me.

Goodluck

Answer 8

Join a club. Darts, rugby, whatever, get some mates. They will like you, you will feel better.
just adding pool as well. For any of these games just go and put your name on the board!

Answer 9

firstly accept who you are and don't judge yourself against others. it sounds so easy but it is so difficult. you need to remember that we are all special in our own unique way and that we are all beautiful whether it be inside or out. some of the most attractive people i know are the ugliest!!

Answer 10

Do you remember the things you used to do when small. would it be making objects, reading certain comics, puzzles, collecting frogs whatever it was, do it now. If you were good at something as a child, do it now.