My hubby who I love dearly & is very sensitive has put some extra weight on. I would love for his tummy to shrink, but I'm afraid of hurting his feelings. It's making me become unattracted to him sexually. What would you guys do?
2007-03-25 07:14:28 · 21 answers · asked by klorraine25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will probably have better success if you get him to come along and exercise with you. Find something you both enjoy. Long walks or jogs with a nice golden retriever? Volley ball? Racket ball?
Is he happy? A lot of people put on pounds when they're feeling stressed and unhappy. Exercise can help that too.
2007-03-25 07:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by Millie M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay here we go. I've been with my husband for 3 and a half years. When we met he had a very trim and well-toned body. Gradually over time he has put on weight. Being self-conscious he knew this was happening immediately - the weight didn't creep on. However all I ever heard from him was how he was going to start his diet on Monday and in the meantime I couldn't touch his tummy. If I get caught looking at him then he quizzes me about whether or not I find him fat. This all started 3 years ago (6 months into the relationship).
In all honesty the whole "I'm starting my diet on Monday" thing is getting really tedious as is not being able to touch my own husbands tummy - which makes cuddling really hard. So now I've decided to be honest and say "yes you have put on a little bit of weight and could do with a big of toning up". You don't have to be really harsh about it but I think the saying is you've got to be cruel to be kind. If only to yourself!
If he still doesn't start his diet on Monday I might just have to get a bit more harsh until he does do something about it because I'm so bloody bored of him whining on about it now! DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT IF IT BOTHERS YOU THAT MUCH!
As you can tell I'm in sympathy with you! Good luck!
2007-03-25 07:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could start by helping him change his eating habits. For men food and soda is a huge enemy as funny as that may sound. Just reducing the amount of soda he drinks in a days time will help significantly. If you cannot communicate with your husband about your feelings then I would bet your problems are far worse than just his weight problem, but that is for you to decide. I would suggest you try talking to him about it first and then maybe take matters into your own hands if that doesn't work. By this I mean helping him by changing what you make him for dinner, what you put out to drink and so on. Just remember you will be on this "diet" as well so make sure you are serious about this before you get started. Good Luck
2007-03-25 07:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by truckerman96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you do the cooking? If you do - make it healthy. Ask him to exercise with you. Go for walks with each other. My best friend married a male model. It has been 8 years and he gained around 60 pounds. She has always been outspoken and she told him that he needs to lose the weight. She told him that he does not turn her on anymore. Anyway, it hit home and he has since lost all 60 pounds. However, I am not condoning what she did.
2007-03-25 10:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way to do this is to suggest to him that you would like for the both of you to start walking. I saw the picture on your ID of your baby. You could tell him that you want to walk with your daughter and would like his company. The exercise may get him motivated to doing other exercise. Cooking very healthy for him, no trans fats. Buy the new Smart Balance margerine to cook with and put on toast and muffins.
Tell him you love him, and you want to be able to spend as much time with him as possible.
2007-03-25 07:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he would think about going on a diet with you. And fix healthier foods you. And I would ask him( Do you have time to sit and talk As something is bothering me and tell him in a nice way) Tell him you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him but him gaining weight is starting to bother you.
2007-03-25 07:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell him to lose weight because that would sound like a command and it's his choice...however I wouldn't have a problem commenting that perhaps we (you and he) both needed to be more fit and how would he feel about us eating better and exercising together...
No reason to have hurt feelings if you make it a team effort and even if you do not need to lose any weight, it certainly wouldn't hurt to eat a more healthy diet and exercise to you'd reap the benefits as well. ☺
2007-03-25 07:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wahhh you shouldnt care if he put on some extra weight!
but lol o well. if its cuz hes eating too much, you should be like "hon, im going on a diet" and then clean out all the bad and fatty foods. for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, serve low fat foods? and get him to exercise with you too. both of you would benefit!
i think you should tell him though. its better for both of you. good luck :]
2007-03-25 07:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by heythere :] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very hurtful and may result in him resenting you. Ask him if he'd like to play tennis with you or go swimming together or walking together, etc. Just be careful how you approach on the topic of wt--I'm speaking from personal experience.
2007-03-25 07:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by bahjij6 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this is an exceptionally stressful one. First enable me ask you (and clearly you won't have the capacity to respond to) approximately your weight, by way of fact before you communicate with him, you do no longer desire to be a hypocrit. With that reported, do no longer deliver the intercourse into it, mutually as that is genuine (and that i will comprehend) that's hurtful and could make him self unsleeping and ought to place an extra lack of self assurance into your courting. Secondly, the superb thank you to attitude that's along with his superb pursuits in innovations. you may point out the main mandatory components and those are; 20 pounds over your aim weight is considered obese by utilising the ADA. This places a rigidity on one's heart and different organs. 2nd, eating healthful supplies your physique nutrition that it desires to function right and that is going from moods to appropriate sleep varieties, sustained power, sturdy innovations functionality and all that sturdy stuff. enable him recognize in a loving way (the comparable way which you will need it reported to you) here "honey, i locate you cute yet i'm worried with regards to the load earnings. i think of that is stressful on our bodies and that i care plenty approximately you and your wellbeing. What am i able to do to assist us the two grow to be in good shape that enables you to be greater lively and do sturdy for our bodies? What do you like from me by way of fact i desire that can assist you?". by utilising him a controversy of adult males's wellbeing and learn some issues for your self to assist save him on aim. sturdy success!!!
2016-10-01 11:28:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋