love and arrange marriages
2007-03-25 07:09:43 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marraige is like singing a duet song when you know nothing about the rythm and the lyrics. Both invloved should contribute perfectly. They gotta knw when to pitch in and when to stay mum. They gotta balance the melody when the other is out of tune.
Be it a love marraige or an arranged marraige, if the partners are not committed, it just won't work.
Both have their own merits and demerits.
One thing in common - Both explore more of their partners heart, theri deepest feelings, craziest dreams, worst fears, etc.
People going for love marraiges find some unpromised surpirses after marraige. People going for arranged marraiges find some unpromised surpirses. People in love marraiges compare their married life with their love life. People in arranged marraiges compare their married life with their dreams.
Neither of them would be good if they caonnot stick to their commitments and they would be perfect if they do.
All the best...
:-)
2007-03-25 08:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key term is "marriage" and its function and operational physiology. Procreation/Sexual activity which translates to a species need to procreate is a dominant drive and is structured and facilitated in the human species via marriage.
This drive is driven by hormones which influence marriage.In a love marriage the initial burst of attraction fueled by hormones are catered to, but the long term prospects are unknown. Any wonder the rush of a new lover dies off after the first few months? It is like the bright flowers of a pollinating flower that attracts the bees. In an arranged marriage the long term prospects are measured by experienced interviewers/parents/elders and the "resumes" examined before the "job"/marriage is offered. With experienced hands scouring resumes for best fit, one has to wonder why divorce rates are so low with arranged marriages? In love marriages, the freedom and gratification is immediate like a job at McDonalds, but then the turnover/divorce rate is high until the next job at Taco Bell and KFC and so on. I like to view arranged marriage as interview marriages with more permanent positions.
2007-03-25 18:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Kaliyug Ka Plato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriages don't involve the falling in love phenomena. This side-steps the typical restructuring process that goes on in lovers ... where all other relationships, including those with parents, become background material compared to their main them in life - being "IN-LOVE".
In many arranged marriages, falling in-love does happen to the husband and wife; and usually much more wisely than otherwise might happen. In many marriages that are based on the falling in-love experience; once the glamor of the experience is over the couple finds themselves with a very difficult course to pass ... strangers em barking out together with little or nothing in common apart from the memory of falling in love a few years before.
2007-03-25 14:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by Sultan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the mental maturity of you both suits and like each other it is a love and marriage is love marriage
if the parents select the girl or boy suitable to their family with the acceptance of their kids is called arranged marriage
but now a days arranged maraige is better
2007-03-25 22:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by ar.samy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difference is in order.
Love AFTER marriage = arranged-marriage
Love BEFORE marriage = love-marriage
2007-03-25 18:49:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After marriage if u r happy & satisfied it doesn't make any difference how u got married. If there is any problem or unsatisfaction then in case of arranged marriage u can blame the people who helped u during negotiations & arrangements but in case of love marriage u can blame yourself only. That is only practical difference. Nothing else really.
2007-03-26 04:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriages are arranged, either through family members or through matrimonial sites. The boy and girl don't know too much about each other, and they start afresh.
In a love marriage, you chose your own partner, wherein you have been involved... emotionally, and may be physically. You know each other well, before you get married.
2007-03-25 15:03:26 · answer #7 · answered by glad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Pallavi, there is no vast difference in your question, but it is just how you want to have it done. The basis differences are: 1) In Love marriage you first love and then marry, but in arranged marriage you marry first and then fall in love. 2) In Love marriage sex comes before marriage and in arrranged marriage sex comes after the marriage. All the best as both is good..
2007-03-25 16:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Jus4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love marriage is that marriage in which u are happy to chose ur right person for ur life. mostly all love marriages starts from love for each other. arrange marriage is opposite of that.
2007-03-25 14:16:30 · answer #9 · answered by akash s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, in love marriage, you are already in love when you get married. in arranged marriage, you fall in love AFTER the marriage....
2007-03-26 17:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋